Coaching practices for Inversion Solve Problems Backward During Conflict

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• Somewhere in this I stopped seeing a problem we both have and started seeing the other person AS the problem
• We solve the immediate thing but the same ugly dynamic underneath stays exactly the same, so the next disagreement plays out identically
• Every disagreement turns into me versus them, like we’re opponents trying to win instead of two people up against the same problem
• There’s a problem I keep not bringing up
• The same fight with this person spirals every single time

Practices that may help

1. Inversion: Solve Problems Backward
   Inversion is the mental model — popularized by Charlie Munger via the mathematician Carl Jacobi’s "invert, always invert" — of approaching a problem from its opposite end: instead of asking how to succeed, ask what would guarantee failure, then systematically avoid it. It is a reasoning heuristic, not a studied intervention, but it reliably surfaces risks and assumptions that forward thinking misses.
2. Separate the person from the problem
   Treat the conflict as a problem you face together, not a contest you fight each other.
   The Third Alternative, Made Practical
3. Transform the relationship, not just the issue
   Use each conflict as an opportunity to raise the quality of the relationship itself.
   The Third Alternative, Made Practical
4. Fight the problem, not each other
   Reorient conflict so both partners face the problem together rather than facing each other.
   Secure-Functioning Relationships
5. Avoiding (unassertive, uncooperative)
   Sidestep or postpone the conflict when timing is bad or the issue isn’t worth engaging.
   The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles
6. Responding to conflict without escalation
   In a conflict, address the problem without attacking the person.
   Ahimsa: Non-Violence as a Daily Practice
7. Reverse brainstorm: solve the opposite problem first
   Ask "How would we guarantee the worst possible outcome?" — then invert every answer.
   Lateral Thinking, Made Practical
8. Collaborating (assertive and cooperative)
   Work the underlying interests until you find a solution that genuinely meets both sides’ needs.
   The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles
9. Walk down the ladder together in disagreements
   In conflict, stop arguing about conclusions and descend together to the data level.
   The Ladder of Inference
10. Reverse the problem to break fixation
    Ask the opposite question ("How could we make this worse?") to escape the constraints of the original framing.
    Problem Reframing: Solving the Right Problem First

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