Coaching practices for Is Being an Extrovert a Necessary Condition to Be a Manager

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• A packed week of back-to-back social stuff leaves me completely hollowed out while others seem to run on it, and I keep pushing through and performing energy I don’t have
• I care about my people so much that I’ve started absorbing their personal crises and trying to fix their lives, and I can’t tell anymore where being a supportive manager stops and me overstepping into someone I shouldn’t be begins.
• I keep delivering work I’m proud of and it somehow lands flat with my boss, and I’m realizing I have no real idea what they’re actually being judged on or pressured about
• My people route every little decision up to me, even ones squarely in their own authority
• I’m at my best when I’m getting a room aligned and fired up

Practices that may help

1. Energy management from your extraversion score
   Calibrate social load and recovery time to your actual extraversion level rather than performing the energy you do not have.
   The Big Five Personality Model
2. Know where care ends and overreach begins
   Caring personally means being available, not being a therapist — know the limit of your role.
   Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor
3. Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
   Managing up means proactively understanding your manager’s priorities, communication style, and constraints — then adapting how you work and communicate to make the partnership effective. Done well it is collaborative rather than manipulative: it reduces friction, builds trust, and creates space for greater autonomy. The evidence base is primarily organizational behavior research on leader-member exchange and practitioner consensus.
4. Map your manager’s top three priorities
   Know what your manager is measured on and being pressured about — your work lands differently when it connects to that.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
5. Break the advice-dependency loop
   When people come to you for every decision, it signals advice-giving is making them less capable, not more.
   The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm
6. Lead from the influencing domain — take charge, speak up, make sure others are heard
   People strong in influencing sell the team’s ideas inside and outside the organization.
   Strengths-Based Leadership, Made Practical
7. Acknowledge what you heard before advancing to advice
   A solution offered before the speaker feels heard is usually rejected, even when it is correct.
   The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm
8. Catch people doing things right
   Most management attention goes to problems — systematically noticing good work is both rarer and more powerful.
   The One Minute Manager: Three Practices That Still Work
9. Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
   Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
10. Manage LMX differentiation fairly as a leader
    Acknowledge that you develop different relationships with different people — and ensure the differences are earned, not arbitrary.
    Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical

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