Coaching practices for Is it Normal to Get Angry at Your Child
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- When my kid is angry and lashing out I can’t tell where the line is
- When my child gets upset my whole reflex is to make it stop as fast as possible
- When my kid is melting down I feel trapped between two bad options
- When my kid acts out I lose it
- I lose my temper with my kid and then feel sick about it for hours
Practices that may help
- Set limits on behavior while accepting the feeling
All feelings are acceptable; not all behaviors are — hold both at once.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Treat the emotional moment as a teaching opportunity
When your child is upset, slow down instead of speeding toward resolution.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Refuse to energize negative behavior
Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Manage your own emotional state before responding
A regulated parent is the single most powerful behavior management tool available.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
Children misbehave partly because they don’t know how to do the right thing — teach the skill when everyone is calm.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Labeling emotions in children: the parenting application
When a child is upset, name their emotion aloud and validate it before attempting to solve or redirect.
Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice - Teach that Green is the goal, not the only acceptable zone
All zones are normal; the goal is knowing which zone a situation calls for and how to get there.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Hold Plan B conversations proactively, not reactively
Solve the problem before the next explosion, when everyone is calm.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Connect emotionally before you redirect or teach
The downstairs brain has to be acknowledged before the upstairs brain can hear anything.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
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All feelings are acceptable; not all behaviors are — hold both at once.
Set limits on behavior while accepting the feeling
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A regulated parent is the single most powerful behavior management tool available.
Manage your own emotional state before responding
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Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
- How To Teach A 4 Year Old Child To Handle Tantrums
When a child is upset, name their emotion aloud and validate it before attempting to solve or redirect.
Labeling emotions in children: the parenting application
- If Toddlers Preschoolers Develop A Short Temper How Can We Consciously Try To Change It
Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
Plan behavior management strategies in advance
- When Authoritative Parenting Responsive Not Reactive
Responsiveness means tuning into what the child actually needs; reactivity means responding to what their behavior triggers in you.
Be responsive to the child’s needs, not reactive to their behavior
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