Coaching practices for How to Deal with My Child's Anger Issues
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- When my kid is melting down I feel trapped between two bad options
- I keep trying to reason with my kid right in the middle of the meltdown
- Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
- When my kid is angry and lashing out I can’t tell where the line is
- When my kid acts out I lose it
Practices that may help
- Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Hold Plan B conversations proactively, not reactively
Solve the problem before the next explosion, when everyone is calm.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Set limits on behavior while accepting the feeling
All feelings are acceptable; not all behaviors are — hold both at once.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Refuse to energize negative behavior
Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Treat the emotional moment as a teaching opportunity
When your child is upset, slow down instead of speeding toward resolution.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Recognize when Plan A (unilateral imposition) makes things worse
Adult-imposed solutions can win the battle and lose the war — notice when enforcement is escalating rather than solving.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Labeling emotions in children: the parenting application
When a child is upset, name their emotion aloud and validate it before attempting to solve or redirect.
Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice - Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
Children misbehave partly because they don’t know how to do the right thing — teach the skill when everyone is calm.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Problem-solve together once the child is calm
After the emotional storm passes, invite the child to find a solution with you.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
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All feelings are acceptable; not all behaviors are — hold both at once.
Set limits on behavior while accepting the feeling
- When Collaborative Problem Solving Proactive Plan B
Solve the problem before the next explosion, when everyone is calm.
Hold Plan B conversations proactively, not reactively
- When Whole Brain Child Connect And Redirect
The downstairs brain has to be acknowledged before the upstairs brain can hear anything.
Connect emotionally before you redirect or teach
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Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
Refuse to energize negative behavior
- How Do I Stop My Daughter From Hitting Another Child
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
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Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
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