Coaching practices for Is it Wise to Address Workplace Hand Holding and If So How
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- Someone on my team is clearly going through something heavy and I’ve just been carrying on talking deliverables like nothing’s wrong
- I’ve told my people a hundred times they can disagree with me, but they still don’t
- I think my boss is about to make the wrong call and I’m biting my tongue to keep the peace, then quietly stewing about it after
- My boss is clearly frustrated and I can feel it, but naming their feeling out loud to someone above me feels presumptuous, even risky
- I honestly can’t tell where I stand with my boss
Practices that may help
- Show up for the person, not just the deliverable
Acknowledge what is happening in someone’s life when it is clearly affecting them — before addressing the work.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up
Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
Psychological Safety in Teams - Disagree with your manager constructively
State your disagreement clearly, give your reasoning, and then commit to the decision — without sacrificing either honesty or loyalty.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Use labeling across power asymmetries — with care
Labeling your senior’s frustration is more delicate than labeling a peer’s — name the stakes, not just the feeling.
Labeling Emotions in Negotiation, Made Practical - Assess the current quality of your leader-member relationship
Honestly diagnose where you stand in the relationship before trying to improve it.
Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical - Send proactive, brief status updates
Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Invite input explicitly and specifically
Ask for candid input on a specific topic — not "any thoughts?" but "where do you see this plan failing?"
Psychological Safety in Teams - Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Use physical touch to reinforce emotional safety
Touch is an attachment behavior: reaching for and being met physically reinforces the emotional bond.
Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love - Calibrate mirroring to cultural and individual norms
What reads as warm attunement in one cultural context reads as intrusive or mocking in another.
Mirroring and Matching, Made Practical
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