Coaching practices for Is Time Really the Only Solution for a Child with Attachment Issues
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- I keep meaning to spend real one-on-one time with my kid but it gets squeezed out by everything else, and I think the unpredictability is part of why they keep grabbing at me
- There’s a window every day
- My kid only seems to come at me when they want something or when they’re acting out, and I realize the only time I really pay full attention is when I’m correcting them
- The storm has finally passed and my kid is calm again, and I keep wanting to either just move on or fix the situation for them
- All day my kid keeps coming to show me things and I keep saying "in a minute" because I’m busy, and then the moment I need them to cooperate they dig in
Practices that may help
- Schedule and protect special time as a non-negotiable
Put it in the calendar, name it, and keep the appointment.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Use special time to fill the connection cup before problems escalate
A proactive ten-minute connection recharge can prevent an afternoon of battles.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Spend quality one-on-one time with your child
Fifteen minutes of child-led, uninterrupted attention per day builds the relationship that discipline depends on.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Problem-solve together once the child is calm
After the emotional storm passes, invite the child to find a solution with you.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Say yes to bids for connection before enforcing limits
A child’s capacity to accept limits depends on how connected they feel to the person setting them.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind) - Evaluate solutions for durability: realistic, mutually satisfying, safe
A collaborative solution that fails one of three tests — realistic, mutually satisfying, safe — will not hold.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Use play to re-establish connection after conflict or separation
Playful physical contact after a difficult moment re-welds the relationship faster than discussion.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
Special time is a structured daily or near-daily practice of ten to twenty minutes of fully child-directed, uninterrupted one-on-one play, drawn from Lawrence Cohen's Playful Parenting framework. It fills the child’s attachment "cup," reduces bids for attention through misbehavior, and builds the relationship reserve that makes limits and teaching more effective. Clinical and observational evidence consistently supports child-directed play as a relationship and behavior intervention. - Hold Plan B conversations proactively, not reactively
Solve the problem before the next explosion, when everyone is calm.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Listen empathically and validate the feeling
Reflect the emotion you see accurately before you do anything else.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
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