Coaching practices for What to Do About Our 2 Year Old Attaching to Another Parent
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I keep meaning to spend real one-on-one time with my kid but it gets squeezed out by everything else, and I think the unpredictability is part of why they keep grabbing at me
- All day my kid keeps coming to show me things and I keep saying "in a minute" because I’m busy, and then the moment I need them to cooperate they dig in
- There’s a window every day
- My kid only seems to come at me when they want something or when they’re acting out, and I realize the only time I really pay full attention is when I’m correcting them
- After a blow-up with my kid we both stay frozen and far apart, and I keep trying to talk it through, to get an apology, while the distance just drags on
Practices that may help
- Schedule and protect special time as a non-negotiable
Put it in the calendar, name it, and keep the appointment.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Say yes to bids for connection before enforcing limits
A child’s capacity to accept limits depends on how connected they feel to the person setting them.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind) - Use special time to fill the connection cup before problems escalate
A proactive ten-minute connection recharge can prevent an afternoon of battles.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Spend quality one-on-one time with your child
Fifteen minutes of child-led, uninterrupted attention per day builds the relationship that discipline depends on.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Use play to re-establish connection after conflict or separation
Playful physical contact after a difficult moment re-welds the relationship faster than discussion.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Connect before you correct
A child who feels connected to you is far more receptive to your guidance than one who feels attacked.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
Special time is a structured daily or near-daily practice of ten to twenty minutes of fully child-directed, uninterrupted one-on-one play, drawn from Lawrence Cohen's Playful Parenting framework. It fills the child’s attachment "cup," reduces bids for attention through misbehavior, and builds the relationship reserve that makes limits and teaching more effective. Clinical and observational evidence consistently supports child-directed play as a relationship and behavior intervention.
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Special time is a structured daily or near-daily practice of ten to twenty minutes of fully child-directed, uninterrupted one-on-one play, drawn from Lawrence Cohen's Playful Parenting framework. It fills the child’s attachment "cup," reduces bids for attention through misbehavior, and builds the relationship reserve that makes limits and teaching more effective. Clinical and observational evidence consistently supports child-directed play as a relationship and behavior intervention.
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