Coaching practices for Iterate on Feedback

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• I tend to bite my tongue in the moment and save things up for the formal review, and then I dump weeks of accumulated issues on someone all at once
• I deliver my feedback as a finished verdict and then the other person just sits there closed off
• My feedback conversations end with the person nodding and saying "yeah, makes sense, got it"
• I blurt out corrections in the heat of the moment, often right in front of other people, and instead of taking it in they just get humiliated and dig in
• Feedback in my one-on-ones only ever flows one way

Practices that may help

1. Give feedback in the moment, not stockpiled for reviews
   Feedback accumulated for a periodic review arrives late and in bulk — neither helps.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
2. Invite a response after delivering SBI
   Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
3. Close feedback by checking understanding, not agreement
   Ask "What did you take from that?" rather than "Do you agree?"
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
4. Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
   Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
5. Make feedback flow in both directions
   Give timely, specific feedback — and ask for it on your own management.
   Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical
6. Establish shared purpose before delivering critique
   Frame critique as help toward a shared goal, not an evaluation from above.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
7. Feedback: extract the signal, ignore the noise
   Seek feedback fast, but use the part that actually tells you how to improve.
   Ultralearning: Aggressive, Self-Directed Learning
8. The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
   The feedback sandwich (positive–negative–positive) is the dominant model for giving feedback in workplaces, but research and practitioner experience suggest it routinely fails: recipients either remember only the positive parts or dismiss the negative as softened insincerity. The practices below cover why it fails mechanistically and what specific alternatives are better supported.
9. Receive feedback with minimal defensiveness
   Treat feedback as data about others’ experience — not as a verdict on your character.
   The Johari Window
10. Calibrate feedback frequency to the behavior cycle
    Match how often you check feedback to how often the behavior occurs — too frequent is noise, too rare is lag.
    Feedback Loops and Behavior Change

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