Coaching practices for Stop Feeding Emotions
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Something just set me off and I can feel it surging right now
- I feel the jealousy or the hurt and then immediately pile on a second layer of "I shouldn’t feel this, a mature person wouldn’t"
- When I’m upset I’m completely fused with the story
- When a big feeling crashes over me it’s like I become it
- The moment I feel stressed or low my body steers me straight to the kitchen
Practices that may help
- Observe the emotion without feeding it
When a strong emotion hits, watch it without adding the story that keeps it going.
The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical - Give yourself permission to feel
Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical - O — Observe: Notice What Is Actually Happening
After the stop, observe the situation, your emotions, and your urges — without judgment and without acting on them.
The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments - Mindfulness of the current emotion
Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical - The emotional eating pause — a 10-minute delay before comfort eating
When emotional hunger drives you toward food, pause for 10 minutes, name the feeling, and ask whether food is the right response.
Mindful Eating, Made Practical - Opposite action
When an emotion doesn’t fit the facts or is unhelpful, act opposite to its urge — fully and wholeheartedly.
DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical - Bring feelings into the conversation deliberately
Name the emotions instead of leaking them — unspoken feelings don’t leave, they distort.
Difficult Conversations, Made Practical - Check the facts and opposite action
Test whether an emotion fits the facts; if it doesn’t, act opposite to its urge to change it.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills, Made Practical - Understand the function of the emotion
Every emotion evolved because it does something useful — learn what yours is trying to do.
DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical - RAIN — Allow the experience to be here
Let the feeling exist as it is for a moment, without pushing it away or feeding it.
Radical Acceptance, Made Practical
Related concerns
- How To Handle Your Emotions June Hunt
Naming and honestly expressing what you feel — rather than suppressing, masking, or performing emotions — is linked to lower physiological stress, better relationships, and more effective self-regulation. Decades of research on expressive writing and emotional disclosure support the general principle, though effects are modest and depend heavily on how disclosure is done.
- How Deal With Your Emotions
Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
Mindfulness of the current emotion
- How To Control Emotions
Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
- How To Deal With Emotions
Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
- How To Deal With Emotions Biblically
Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
- How To Handle Emotions Biblically
After the stop, observe the situation, your emotions, and your urges — without judgment and without acting on them.
O — Observe: Notice What Is Actually Happening
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