Coaching practices for Lmx Differentiation

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I lead a team and I’ve realized the people I lean on most are the ones who remind me of myself or are just easy to be around
• There are people on my team I’ve quietly written off
• My boss took a real chance on me and advocated for me, and I just took it and moved on without ever closing the loop
• I do my job competently and stay neatly inside my lane, and I sense that’s exactly why I’m read as just-a-role-filler
• I keep waiting for my manager to notice me and hand me more trust, and it’s not happening

Practices that may help

1. Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
   Leader-member exchange theory, developed by George Graen and Mary Uhl-Bien, holds that leaders do not treat all followers the same — they develop distinct dyadic relationships ranging from high-LMX (trust, respect, mutual obligation) to low-LMX (formal, exchange-based). High-LMX relationships are consistently associated with better performance, satisfaction, and career outcomes in observational research.
2. Manage LMX differentiation fairly as a leader
   Acknowledge that you develop different relationships with different people — and ensure the differences are earned, not arbitrary.
   Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
3. Deliberately expand your inner circle
   Move team members from low-LMX to high-LMX through intentional relationship investment.
   Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
4. Reciprocate when your leader invests in you
   When a leader gives you trust, opportunity, or advocacy, close the loop with visible follow-through.
   Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
5. Expand your role through extra-role behavior
   Voluntarily take on work beyond your formal responsibilities to signal readiness for a higher-trust relationship.
   Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
6. Invest in the relationship before you need it
   Build relational credit through reliability and initiative, not charm or performance alone.
   Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
7. Assess the current quality of your leader-member relationship
   Honestly diagnose where you stand in the relationship before trying to improve it.
   Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
8. Differentiation of Self: David Schnarch’s Framework for Passionate Marriage
   Differentiation, as David Schnarch uses the term in Passionate Marriage, is the capacity to maintain a clear sense of who you are while in close emotional contact with someone who matters to you. It is the alternative to fusion (losing yourself in the relationship) and to distance (protecting yourself by staying emotionally removed). Higher differentiation predicts both more genuine intimacy and more sustained desire — because only a distinct self can truly connect, rather than just merge.
9. Lateral Thinking, Made Practical
   Lateral thinking, coined by Edward de Bono, is a set of deliberate techniques for disrupting habitual thought patterns so that a problem can be approached from an unexpected angle. Unlike vertical (logical) thinking, which deepens the current line of reasoning, lateral thinking deliberately abandons it to find a new entry point. Evidence for specific techniques is largely observational and practitioner-reported; the underlying cognitive principle — that breaking pattern-lock enables novel solutions — has support in creativity research.
10. Concept fan: map the solution space before picking a direction
    Expand from specific solutions to the broader concept behind them, then generate alternatives at the concept level.
    Lateral Thinking, Made Practical

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