Coaching practices for Making Others Feel They Matter
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I want to feel like I make a difference to someone, and I keep waiting for that to land on me from the outside
- I want to feel needed in a way I can actually see
- The people I love most have drifted to the bottom of my contacts
- On the days I feel like I count for nothing, I can’t actually see any proof that I do
- I move through whole days of small encounters
Practices that may help
- Make someone else feel they matter — specifically
Tell a specific person, specifically, that they are noticed and important to you.
Mattering: Feeling Like You Count - Serve in a context where your contribution is visible
Volunteer, mentor, or help in a setting where the impact of your presence is tangible and direct.
Mattering: Feeling Like You Count - Mattering: Feeling Like You Count
Gordon Flett defines mattering as the sense that one is significant to others — noticed, important, and depended upon. Feeling that you matter predicts lower depression, higher engagement, and reduced suicidality across large observational samples. Anti-mattering — the sense of being invisible or a burden — is a stronger predictor of distress than simply lacking positive social connection. - Ask the people who matter to you how they are — and really listen
Check in on someone in a way that signals they are on your mind, not just in your address book.
Mattering: Feeling Like You Count - Notice how you already matter
Deliberately surface evidence that you are noticed, important, or relied upon.
Mattering: Feeling Like You Count - Create micro-mattering moments every day
Look people in the eye, use their name, and acknowledge them specifically — in the small encounters of your day.
Mattering: Feeling Like You Count - Clarify how your role contributes to others
Map the concrete downstream impact your work and presence have on specific people.
Mattering: Feeling Like You Count - Audit and reduce anti-mattering inputs
Identify the people, settings, and habits that most reliably make you feel invisible or burdensome.
Mattering: Feeling Like You Count - Meaningful engagement
Spend regular time doing something that generates both positive emotion and a sense of purpose.
Building Positive Emotions, Made Practical - Increase personal relevance to shift the audience to the central route
Show people what is personally at stake before presenting your argument.
Elaboration Likelihood Model, Made Practical
Related concerns
- How To Feel You Matter
Tell a specific person, specifically, that they are noticed and important to you.
Make someone else feel they matter — specifically
- Mattering Feeling Like You Count At Work
Gordon Flett defines mattering as the sense that one is significant to others — noticed, important, and depended upon. Feeling that you matter predicts lower depression, higher engagement, and reduced suicidality across large observational samples. Anti-mattering — the sense of being invisible or a burden — is a stronger predictor of distress than simply lacking positive social connection.
- Mattering Feeling Like You Count When Burned Out
Gordon Flett defines mattering as the sense that one is significant to others — noticed, important, and depended upon. Feeling that you matter predicts lower depression, higher engagement, and reduced suicidality across large observational samples. Anti-mattering — the sense of being invisible or a burden — is a stronger predictor of distress than simply lacking positive social connection.
- Anti Mattering
Identify the people, settings, and habits that most reliably make you feel invisible or burdensome.
Audit and reduce anti-mattering inputs
- Evidence Of Mattering
Deliberately surface evidence that you are noticed, important, or relied upon.
Notice how you already matter
- Importance Mattering
Gordon Flett defines mattering as the sense that one is significant to others — noticed, important, and depended upon. Feeling that you matter predicts lower depression, higher engagement, and reduced suicidality across large observational samples. Anti-mattering — the sense of being invisible or a burden — is a stronger predictor of distress than simply lacking positive social connection.
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