Coaching practices for Micro Moments Connection

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• I’m only half-there in most of my interactions, glancing at my phone while someone talks, and I assume connection has to be the big deep conversation
• I move through whole days of small encounters
• Every so often we get it right
• I get through whole days where every exchange is purely transactional
• When my partner says something small I tell myself I’ll give them my full attention once I finish what I’m doing

Practices that may help

1. Create micro-moments of connection
   Build positive emotion through brief, genuine moments of resonance with another person — not through sustained intimacy alone.
   Building Positive Emotions, Made Practical
2. Create micro-mattering moments every day
   Look people in the eye, use their name, and acknowledge them specifically — in the small encounters of your day.
   Mattering: Feeling Like You Count
3. Celebrate and reinforce moments of secure connection
   When you get it right -- when you reach and are met -- name it and savour it.
   Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love
4. Cultivate micro-moments of connection (positivity resonance)
   Brief genuine moments of shared positive emotion with any other person — not just close relationships — build the social resources that sustain wellbeing.
   Broaden-and-Build, Made Practical
5. Develop the habit of turning toward
   A consistent, brief acknowledgment is worth more than an occasional full engagement.
   Bids for Connection: The Small Moments That Make or Break Relationships
6. Turning toward, not away
   Respond to a partner or friend’s small bids for attention instead of brushing them off.
   The Good Life: Lessons from the Harvard Study
7. Build rituals of connection and shared meaning
   Create repeatable rituals that signal the relationship is a priority.
   The 5-to-1 Positivity Ratio in Relationships
8. Turn toward bids for connection
   Respond to small, everyday bids for attention as if they matter — because they do.
   The 5-to-1 Positivity Ratio in Relationships
9. Bids for Connection: The Small Moments That Make or Break Relationships
   A bid for connection is any small attempt to engage a partner -- a comment, a question, a touch, a sigh. John Gottman's observational research found that couples who turned toward bids far more often than they turned away were far more likely to stay together six years later. The research is correlational but one of the more specific findings in the couples literature.
10. The last-time awareness practice
    Periodically notice when you might be doing something for the last time — and let that awareness deepen your engagement.
    Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things

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