Coaching practices for Moral Role Model
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I have abstract ideas about the kind of person I want to be, but in a hard moment I freeze because I don’t actually know what that looks like in practice
- There’s a spot where I keep quietly cutting corners when no one’s really looking, and I want to live like the people I admire actually are watching
- I keep telling myself to "be more patient" or "be kinder" and it stays a vague slogan
- I stand up and tell my team what we value, but I’ve started to wonder whether my own choices actually match the words
- I’m standing at a choice where I can feel myself about to take the easy, lesser road, and abstract principles aren’t holding me
Practices that may help
- Choose and study role models deliberately
Select a specific person whose character in a specific domain you want to internalize, and study how they act — not just what they say.
Virtue Ethics, Made Practical - Act in ways that might elevate others
Make choices with the awareness that others may be watching and may be lifted by what they see.
Elevation: The Emotion That Lifts You - Learning through exemplar study
Study the conduct of a person you consider exemplary and identify one specific behaviour you can emulate.
Confucian Self-Cultivation: The Mencius Approach - Model the values you expect (idealized influence)
Become a living example of the values you want your team to hold.
Transformational Leadership, Made Practical - Act as if sages were watching — the practice of the philosophical community
Before any action, ask: would a person I genuinely respect — who embodies the values I aspire to — approve of this?
Pierre Hadot’s Spiritual Exercises - Borrow an identity temporarily by asking "what would [person] do?"
Temporarily adopting a role model’s identity in a specific context lowers the friction of acting as they would.
Identity Priming, Made Practical - Choose a character role model and study their biography
Find a person — living or historical — whose eulogy virtues you admire and study how they built them.
The Eulogy Virtues: Building a Life of Character - Ground ethics in love and compassion, not rule compliance
Let care for others — not fear of violation — be the engine of your moral conduct.
The Perennial Philosophy, Made Practical - Name and wrestle with your besetting weakness
Identify the one recurring moral failure and choose a practice that confronts it daily.
The Eulogy Virtues: Building a Life of Character - Accept your role (not its outcomes) as your commitment
Commit to the role — parent, manager, friend, citizen — as a practice, with its obligations, not as a guarantee of outcomes.
The Stoic Reserve Clause
Related concerns
- Moral Exemplar
Select a specific person whose character in a specific domain you want to internalize, and study how they act — not just what they say.
Choose and study role models deliberately
- Moral Exemplar Practice
Study the conduct of a person you consider exemplary and identify one specific behaviour you can emulate.
Learning through exemplar study
- Character Role Model
Select a specific person whose character in a specific domain you want to internalize, and study how they act — not just what they say.
- Choosing Role Models
Select a specific person whose character in a specific domain you want to internalize, and study how they act — not just what they say.
- Role Model For Character
Select a specific person whose character in a specific domain you want to internalize, and study how they act — not just what they say.
- Moral Exemplars Relationship
Make choices with the awareness that others may be watching and may be lifted by what they see.
Act in ways that might elevate others
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