Coaching practices for Motivational Interviewing After a Loss
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- My memories of them and of how it happened come at me in scattered, jagged pieces with no order to them, and I keep replaying the end on a loop
- I want their life to keep meaning something in the world, not just end
- It’s been long enough that I can quietly admit something in me has shifted since they died
- The day they died still plays in my head in jagged pieces
- Everyone keeps telling me to move on and get over the loss, but the grief is huge and it won’t go
Practices that may help
- Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical
Motivational interviewing (MI) is a collaborative conversation style that strengthens a person’s own motivation for change by drawing out their reasons rather than supplying them. Meta-analyses find small-to-moderate effects across health behaviors — modest on average, but reliably better than confrontational or advice-giving styles, which can backfire. - Construct a coherent narrative of the loss
Tell the full story of the loss — who the person was, what happened, and what life is now.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Carry forward the person’s legacy in your own life
Identify values, projects, or commitments the person cared about and carry them forward yourself.
Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical - Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Retell the story of the death and its aftermath
Construct a coherent, detailed narrative of the loss — including your experience before, during, and after.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Treating grief as a form of gratitude
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Name the feeling to defuse the reflex
Labeling "this is loss aversion talking" turns an automatic reflex into a choice.
Loss Aversion, Made Practical - Reframing loss as transformation
When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift - Name the genuine benefits — without erasing the cost
List specific real positives that came from a hard experience while still acknowledging what it cost.
Benefit-Finding: Locating Meaning and Growth in Adversity
Related concerns
- Theme Days After A Loss
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
- Awe And Well Being After A Loss
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
- Emotional Intelligence After A Loss
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Treating grief as a form of gratitude
- Essentialism After A Loss
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
- Grief Narrative
Tell the full story of the loss — who the person was, what happened, and what life is now.
Construct a coherent narrative of the loss
- Logotherapy After A Loss
Logotherapy, developed by Viktor Frankl from his experiences in Nazi concentration camps and his pre-war existential psychiatry, holds that the primary human motivation is the will to meaning — not pleasure or power. It provides a set of techniques for finding meaning even in unavoidable suffering. The evidence base is clinical and theoretical; outcome research exists but is smaller than for CBT.
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