Coaching practices for Awe and Well Being After a Loss
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- It’s been long enough that I can quietly admit something in me has shifted since they died
- Everyone keeps telling me to move on and get over the loss, but the grief is huge and it won’t go
- Something I built my life around has ended
- I want their life to keep meaning something in the world, not just end
- They handled the money, or the cooking, or were just the person I leaned on
Practices that may help
- Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Treating grief as a form of gratitude
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Reframing loss as transformation
When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift - Carry forward the person’s legacy in your own life
Identify values, projects, or commitments the person cared about and carry them forward yourself.
Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical - Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Havening to soften acute grief activation
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch - Find a community that recognises your specific loss
Seek out people who have experienced the same type of loss — online or in person.
Disenfranchised Grief, Made Practical - Awe and Well-Being, Made Practical
Awe — the emotion triggered by encountering something vast that challenges your current mental frameworks — reliably reduces self-focused thinking, lowers inflammatory markers in some studies, increases prosocial behavior, and expands the perceived sense of time available. Dacher Keltner’s research shows awe is more accessible than people think and can be deliberately cultivated without waiting for once-in-a-decade peak experiences. - Construct a coherent narrative of the loss
Tell the full story of the loss — who the person was, what happened, and what life is now.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Recognize and reinvest in deepened relationships
Notice which relationships grew closer through the hardship, and deliberately invest back in them.
Benefit-Finding: Locating Meaning and Growth in Adversity
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Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
- Theme Days After A Loss
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
- Who Am I After Loss
Actively develop the new self that emerges when a core relationship or role is gone.
Reconstruct your identity post-loss
- Acts Of Kindness After A Loss
Identify values, projects, or commitments the person cared about and carry them forward yourself.
Carry forward the person’s legacy in your own life
- Appreciation Of Life After Loss
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
- Best Way To Deal With Grief And Loss
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
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