Coaching practices for Narcissist Boss Won't Allow Me to Move on Sabotaged Internal Transfer
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- Things with my manager have gone cold and transactional, and we’re both just avoiding it and quietly resenting each other
- I keep dropping problems on my boss’s desk and waiting for them to tell me what to do, and I can feel it reads as me not owning my work
- I keep taking my boss’s frustrating decisions personally, like they’re just choosing to make my life harder
- I hand work off and somehow it keeps boomeranging back onto my plate
- My boss keeps checking in and hovering over my work, and it makes me feel untrusted
Practices that may help
- Repair a damaged leader-follower relationship deliberately
Take active steps to reset a deteriorated relationship, rather than allowing avoidance to compound the damage.
Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical - Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Understand the constraints your manager operates under
Ask about the pressures and constraints your manager faces — then factor them into your expectations and requests.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Resist reverse delegation (the "monkey back" problem)
When a report brings you their monkey, don’t take it — send it back with the next step owned.
Delegation Levels, Made Practical - Send proactive, brief status updates
Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Adapt to your manager’s communication style
Match your manager’s preferred level of detail, pace, and channel — not theirs to yours.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Assess the current quality of your leader-member relationship
Honestly diagnose where you stand in the relationship before trying to improve it.
Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical - Resist upward (reverse) delegation
Don’t let the task you delegated jump back onto your desk the first time it gets hard.
Effective Delegation, Made Practical - Understanding protectors
Get to know the managers and firefighters that work hard to keep you from pain.
Internal Family Systems (IFS), Made Practical - Use labeling across power asymmetries — with care
Labeling your senior’s frustration is more delicate than labeling a peer’s — name the stakes, not just the feeling.
Labeling Emotions in Negotiation, Made Practical
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State your disagreement clearly, give your reasoning, and then commit to the decision — without sacrificing either honesty or loyalty.
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