Coaching practices for Nature and Movement During Conflict

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• The second things get tense I snap into the same move every time without choosing it
• I came in hard because the situation called for it, but partway through the urgent part got settled and the other person clearly just needed to feel heard
• There’s real friction on my team
• The same fight with this person spirals every single time
• Our group rushes straight to “so what do we do about it,” and we’re trying to solve something nobody has actually been allowed to tell their side of yet

Practices that may help

1. Identify your default conflict mode
   Before you can choose a mode, you have to know which one you use automatically.
   The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)
2. Recognize when to shift modes mid-conflict
   The mode that’s right at the start of a conversation may not be right ten minutes in.
   The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)
3. Storming: name the conflict without taking sides
   Surface the tension that’s already there rather than managing it away.
   Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development
4. Responding to conflict without escalation
   In a conflict, address the problem without attacking the person.
   Ahimsa: Non-Violence as a Daily Practice
5. Use a storytelling round to build mutual understanding before solving
   Before moving to resolution, give each person a round to tell their experience of what happened.
   The Circle Process (Kay Pranis)
6. Competing (assertive, uncooperative)
   Pursue your own position firmly when speed, principle, or stakes outweigh the relationship cost.
   The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles
7. Use fierce self-compassion to stay in hard conversations
   Stay present in conflict by meeting your own distress with compassion, so you don't flee or attack.
   Fierce Self-Compassion, Made Practical
8. Moving within your window of tolerance
   Choose movement intensity that produces sensation without triggering overwhelm or shutdown.
   Trauma-Informed Yoga: Movement as a Path to Safety
9. Map shared values before mapping the disagreement
   In any conflict, identify the values or goals you and the other person genuinely share before cataloguing differences.
   Naive Realism: Why Everyone Thinks They See Things as They Are
10. Transform the relationship, not just the issue
    Use each conflict as an opportunity to raise the quality of the relationship itself.
    The Third Alternative, Made Practical

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