Coaching practices for Non Dual Awareness After a Loss
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I keep my head down and stay busy so I never actually feel the loss, and now it ambushes me at random and won’t metabolize
- At my kid’s graduation, at a goodbye, I feel proud and gutted in the same breath and I don’t know what to do with both
- There’s this clutching dread that takes over the instant a loss is on the line and just runs me on autopilot
- I laughed at something today and immediately felt like a traitor
- I know in my head that they’re gone, but it still hasn’t landed
Practices that may help
- Non-Dual Awareness, Made Practical
Non-dual awareness is a mode of consciousness in which attention is no longer exclusively identified with the contents of experience (thoughts, sensations, feelings) but rests as the open, aware space in which those contents appear. Loch Kelly’s "effortless mindfulness" approach uses short recognition exercises to shift into this mode; research on the broader open-monitoring family of practices finds reductions in anxiety and rumination, though non-dual awareness itself is a newer research area with limited controlled trials. - Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Holding joy and sadness simultaneously
When you notice a joyful experience that also carries loss, resist the urge to choose one emotion over the other.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Name the feeling to defuse the reflex
Labeling "this is loss aversion talking" turns an automatic reflex into a choice.
Loss Aversion, Made Practical - Deliberately take time off from grief
Give yourself genuine permission to engage with ordinary life — this is restoration orientation, not avoidance.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Task 1: Accept the full reality of the loss
Move from intellectual acknowledgement to full emotional acceptance that the person is gone.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Recognize aware presence within strong emotion
When a strong emotion arises, shift to noticing the awareness in which the emotion appears rather than being swept by it.
Non-Dual Awareness, Made Practical - Glimpse practice: a 10-second recognition of aware space
Pause, drop the question "What am I aware of?" and simply notice that awareness is already on.
Non-Dual Awareness, Made Practical - Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Treating grief as a form of gratitude
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things
Related concerns
- Accepting Loss Grief
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Treating grief as a form of gratitude
- Adjusting To Loss
A loss looks catastrophic in isolation and trivial across the whole portfolio of your life.
Zoom out from the single loss to the aggregate
- Detached Mindfulness After A Loss
Detached mindfulness, developed by Adrian Wells in Metacognitive Therapy, is a mental stance of observing thoughts without engaging, analysing, or believing them — like watching clouds drift past without chasing any of them. It directly targets the extended rumination and worry that drive anxiety and depression, with growing clinical trial evidence supporting MCT overall.
- Emotional Grief Processing
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
- Positive Emotion In Grief
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
- Assumptive World Grief
Identify which of your core beliefs about life, self, and the future the loss has challenged.
Map the assumptive world the loss disrupted
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