Coaching practices for Positive Emotion in Grief
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- It’s been long enough that I can quietly admit something in me has shifted since they died
- Everyone keeps telling me to move on and get over the loss, but the grief is huge and it won’t go
- I’m in the middle of something genuinely hard, and when a small good moment shows up I push it away as if letting myself feel it would be disrespecting how heavy this all is.
- The missing them comes in waves that physically knock the wind out of me, and when one crests I just need to get through the next few minutes without drowning
- I laughed at something today and immediately felt like a traitor
Practices that may help
- Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Treating grief as a form of gratitude
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Access positive emotion during adversity, not after
In the midst of stress and difficulty, finding even small genuine positive moments is a resilience mechanism, not a betrayal of the difficulty.
Broaden-and-Build, Made Practical - Havening to soften acute grief activation
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch - Deliberately take time off from grief
Give yourself genuine permission to engage with ordinary life — this is restoration orientation, not avoidance.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Holding joy and sadness simultaneously
When you notice a joyful experience that also carries loss, resist the urge to choose one emotion over the other.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Oscillate between grief and sense-making
Allow periods of pure grief alongside periods of meaning construction — both are necessary.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Calming Grief Surge
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Havening to soften acute grief activation
- Emotional Grief Processing
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
- Havening For Grief
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
- Healthy Grief Processing
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
- Processing Grief Pain
Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
- Accepting Loss Grief
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Treating grief as a form of gratitude
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