Coaching practices for Notice Urge to Avoid

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• The urge to bail hits like it’s non-negotiable, like I have to act on it right now
• There’s this thing I keep dodging
• The second the work gets hard my hand is already reaching for my phone before I’ve even decided to
• The craving to pour the drink, raid the fridge, send the message lands like it absolutely cannot wait
• The urge shows up as this relentless voice in my head making the case for why I should just do it, and as long as I’m arguing with the thought it owns me

Practices that may help

1. Surf the urge to avoid instead of obeying it
   Treat the avoidance impulse as a wave to observe and outlast, not a command to obey.
   Embracing Discomfort: Turning Resistance Into Growth
2. Approach when fear says avoid
   When unjustified fear urges avoidance, deliberately approach the thing instead.
   Opposite Action: Acting Against the Emotion’s Urge
3. Use mindfulness to notice the urge to delay without acting on it
   Observe the impulse to switch tasks or check your phone as a transient sensation, not a command.
   Procrastination as Emotion Regulation
4. Urge Surfing: Riding Out the Impulse Without Acting
   Treat an urge to act impulsively like a wave — observe it rise and fall without being swept away.
   The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
5. Locate the urge in your body
   Track where the urge lives physically — in tension, heat, agitation — rather than engaging with the thought that wants you to act.
   Ride the Wave (Urge Management), Made Practical
6. Apply defusion to reassurance-seeking urges
   When you feel the urge to check or seek reassurance, defuse the urge itself, not just the content.
   Defusion from Anxious Thoughts
7. Postpone rather than eliminate reassurance-seeking
   When you feel the urge to check or ask, wait 20 minutes first — and usually the urge passes.
   Accepting Uncertainty: The Core Skill in CBT for GAD
8. Notice the urge as it arises
   Catch the craving early, the moment it starts, before it becomes an automatic action.
   Urge Surfing: Riding the Wave of a Craving
9. Opposite action
   When an emotion doesn’t fit the facts or is unhelpful, act opposite to its urge — fully and wholeheartedly.
   DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
10. Plan ahead for predictable triggers
    Decide in advance how you will surf the urges you know are coming.
    Urge Surfing: Riding the Wave of a Craving

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