Coaching practices for Noticing Good Behavior

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• There are certain moments
• I catch myself scanning everyone around me for what’s wrong with them, and I want to flip that lens
• When someone does something genuinely great I just toss off a "nice work" and move on, and it barely registers
• My whole attention as a manager is tuned to what’s broken
• My child has gotten so used to being "the difficult one" that they act like it’s just who they are

Practices that may help

1. Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
   Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
   The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
2. Spot and name character strengths in others
   Notice and explicitly name the character strengths you observe in people around you.
   VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
3. Use SBI for positive feedback, not just correction
   Name the situation, behavior, and impact when someone does something right.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
4. Catch people doing things right
   Most management attention goes to problems — systematically noticing good work is both rarer and more powerful.
   The One Minute Manager: Three Practices That Still Work
5. Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
   Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
   The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
6. Express specific gratitude for acts of moral virtue you witness
   Name and thank the specific virtuous acts of people around you — not just their kindness toward you.
   Elevation: The Emotion That Lifts You
7. Actively notice positive partner behavior
   Scan for what your partner does right, not just what they don’t do.
   Positive Sentiment Override: How to Build the Lens That Protects Relationships
8. One-minute praisings: specific, immediate, genuine
   Praise that names the exact behavior immediately after it occurs reinforces that behavior far more effectively than delayed or generic recognition.
   The One Minute Manager: Three Practices That Still Work
9. Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
   Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
   The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
10. Advanced noting — noting the act of noting itself
    Turn attention to the process of noting itself, observing who is doing the labeling and whether the "noter" is also a mental event.
    Noting Practice, Made Practical

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