Coaching practices for Naming Child Strengths
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- My child has gotten so used to being "the difficult one" that they act like it’s just who they are
- I want my child to carry a solid sense of who they are even when I’m not there to remind them
- I want to know what my real strengths actually are
- There are certain moments
- I catch myself scanning everyone around me for what’s wrong with them, and I want to flip that lens
Practices that may help
- Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Identify your core strengths through your own history
Find the recurring threads in your best moments to name the strengths that are actually yours.
Life Review and Reminiscence Therapy - Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Spot and name character strengths in others
Notice and explicitly name the character strengths you observe in people around you.
VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical - Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Encourage specific contributions and efforts
"You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Sportscast what you see rather than directing
Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Identify the strengths the hardship revealed
Name capacities you discovered in yourself only because the situation demanded them.
Benefit-Finding: Locating Meaning and Growth in Adversity - Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs)
Related concerns
- Character Recognition Parenting
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
- Positive Narration Children
Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
Sportscast what you see rather than directing
- When Natural Logical Consequences Encouragement Not Praise
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
- Behavioral Parent Training Praise
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
- Building Credit History For A Child
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
- Contribution Praise Children
"You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
Encourage specific contributions and efforts
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