Coaching for the challenges people actually bring (page 455)
Start with what is happening in your life. Each concern below opens the closest matches from the IX Coach practice library. Showing 100 / 47301 concerns.
- Somewhere in This I Stopped Seeing a Problem We Both Have and Started Seeing the Other Person as the Problem Now Every Word Out of Their Mouth Gets Read as an Attack and Any Concession Would Feel Like Surrendering to an Opponent Instead of Solving Something Together
Separate the person from the problem · Fight the problem, not each other · Find mutual purpose + 7 more
- Sources to Help You in Teaching Your Kid Your Native Language
Directness: practice the real thing · Talk with your child about their day and interests · Explain it out loud to a real or imagined learner + 7 more
- Standing in a Checkout Line or Waiting for an Elevator My Hand Goes to My Phone on Total Autopilot and I Want a Low Stakes Place to Practice Just Feeling That Urge to Check and Not Obeying it Since These Tiny Waits Are Everywhere
Wait in queues without your phone · Replace checking with a scheduled pickup window · Use mindfulness to notice the urge to delay without acting on it + 7 more
- Standing in the Store with My Card Out I Can Talk Myself Into Anything Being a Need the Coffee the Upgrade the Thing on Sale and in That Exact Moment I'll Believe Whatever Lets Me Buy it So I Can Never Trust the Line I Draw While I'm Holding it
Define "essential" before the fast begins · Name your present bias before you buy · The 24-hour pause on non-essential purchases + 7 more
- Started New Job but Want to Find a New One
Build and work a target list of roles and organisations · Use genius mapping in onboarding · Identify and anticipate upcoming transition windows + 7 more
- Starting a New Job but Continuing on Maternity Leave From the First One
Set and enforce a WIP (Work In Progress) limit · Identify and anticipate upcoming transition windows · Design transitions between tasks, not just the tasks themselves + 7 more
- Starting is the Hard Part Once I'm in I'm Fine but Getting Myself to Begin Takes Everything I Wish There Were Some Cue a Song or a Setup That Just Flips a Switch and Makes Me Want to Dive in Before I Think
Design a cue that reliably predicts a reward · The two-minute rule · Start before you feel ready + 7 more
- Starting Something New Always Feels Better Than Grinding Out the Hard Half Finished Thing So I Keep Kicking Off Fresh Tasks and Now I've Got a Dozen Things All Stuck at 80 Percent None of Them Actually Crossing the Finish Line
Set and enforce a WIP (Work In Progress) limit · Letting yourself finish and stop · Single handling + 7 more
- Status Quo Bias Why We Stick with the Default After a Loss
Status Quo Bias — Why We Stick with the Default · Reframe “doing nothing” as an active choice with consequences · Flip the default in the direction you want to move + 7 more
- Status Quo Bias Why We Stick with the Default as a Parent
Status Quo Bias — Why We Stick with the Default · Reframe “doing nothing” as an active choice with consequences · Change the default to change the outcome + 7 more
- Status Quo Bias Why We Stick with the Default Before Bed
Status Quo Bias — Why We Stick with the Default · Reframe “doing nothing” as an active choice with consequences · Change the default to change the outcome + 7 more
- Status Quo Bias Why We Stick with the Default for My Teenager
Status Quo Bias — Why We Stick with the Default · Change the default to change the outcome · Reframe “doing nothing” as an active choice with consequences + 7 more
- Status Quo Bias Why We Stick with the Default in a New Job
Status Quo Bias — Why We Stick with the Default · Ask: “Would I choose this today if I were starting fresh?” · Reframe “doing nothing” as an active choice with consequences + 7 more
- Status Quo Bias Why We Stick with the Default on a Budget
Status Quo Bias — Why We Stick with the Default · Reframe “doing nothing” as an active choice with consequences · Audit recurring commitments for embedded defaults you never chose + 7 more
- Status Quo Bias Why We Stick with the Default with Friends
Status Quo Bias — Why We Stick with the Default · Reframe “doing nothing” as an active choice with consequences · Audit recurring commitments for embedded defaults you never chose + 7 more
- Status Quo Bias Why We Stick with the Default with My Partner
Status Quo Bias — Why We Stick with the Default · Reframe “doing nothing” as an active choice with consequences · Audit recurring commitments for embedded defaults you never chose + 7 more
- Staying Exactly Where I Am Feels Like the Safe Choice So I Keep Choosing it by Default but I Never Actually Add Up What Another Year of This Costs Me and I'm Starting to Suspect the Standing Still is the Expensive Part
Calculate the cost of inaction · Reframe “doing nothing” as an active choice with consequences · Calculate the ongoing cost of delay + 7 more
- Steal Like an Artist in Practice After a Loss
Steal Like an Artist, in Practice · Share the process, not just the result · Collect your influences deliberately + 7 more
- Steal Like an Artist in Practice After a Setback
Steal Like an Artist, in Practice · Share the process, not just the result · Keep side projects and play + 7 more
- Steal Like an Artist in Practice for My Teenager
Steal Like an Artist, in Practice · Imitate, then transform · Share the process, not just the result + 7 more
- Stoicism as a Set of Practices After a Loss
Stoicism, as a Set of Practices · Negative visualization (premeditatio malorum) · Reframing loss as transformation + 7 more
- Stoicism as a Set of Practices After a Setback
Negative visualization (premeditatio malorum) · Stoicism, as a Set of Practices · Debrief every discomfort practice + 7 more
- Stoicism as a Set of Practices as a Caregiver
Stoicism, as a Set of Practices · Voluntary discomfort · Daily training of the ruling faculty + 7 more
- Stoicism as a Set of Practices as a Parent
Stoicism, as a Set of Practices · Accept your role (not its outcomes) as your commitment · Daily training of the ruling faculty + 7 more
- Stoicism as a Set of Practices for My Teenager
Stoicism, as a Set of Practices · Daily training of the ruling faculty · Voluntary discomfort + 7 more
- Stoicism as a Set of Practices in a New Job
Stoicism, as a Set of Practices · Daily training of the ruling faculty · Voluntary Discomfort: The Stoic Practice of Chosen Hardship + 7 more
- Stoicism as a Set of Practices on a Budget
Stoicism, as a Set of Practices · Daily training of the ruling faculty · Voluntary discomfort + 7 more
- Stoicism as a Set of Practices When Burned Out
Stoicism, as a Set of Practices · Distinguishing acceptance from resignation · Daily training of the ruling faculty + 7 more
- Stoicism as a Set of Practices When Starting Out
Stoicism, as a Set of Practices · Daily training of the ruling faculty · Voluntary discomfort + 7 more
- Stoicism as a Set of Practices with My Partner
Stoicism, as a Set of Practices · Voluntary discomfort · Daily training of the ruling faculty + 7 more
- Stoicism as a Set of Practices with My Team
Stoicism, as a Set of Practices · Daily training of the ruling faculty · Practice philosophy as a daily exercise + 7 more
- Stole My Friend's Excitement About a Personal Project How to Deal with the Fallout
Repair a poor response · Extend the compassion you would give a friend to yourself · Keep side projects and play + 7 more
- Strange Job Interview What Were They Really Looking for
Prepare questions you genuinely don’t know the answer to · Practise your story before you need it · Build and work a target list of roles and organisations + 7 more
- Strategies for Talking Less on Dates or Job Interviews
Listen far more than you talk · Use minimal encouragers · Build scripts for situation entry and transitions + 7 more
- Stretch Goals When Ambitious Targets Help and When They Backfire for My Teenager
Stretch Goals: When Ambitious Targets Help and When They Backfire · Stack proximal milestones beneath a stretch target · Create psychological safety around missing a stretch target + 7 more
- Stretch Goals When Ambitious Targets Help and When They Backfire in a New Job
Stretch Goals: When Ambitious Targets Help and When They Backfire · Assess capability and resource margin before setting a stretch target · Create psychological safety around missing a stretch target + 7 more
- Stretch Goals When Ambitious Targets Help and When They Backfire When Burned Out
Stretch Goals: When Ambitious Targets Help and When They Backfire · Assess capability and resource margin before setting a stretch target · Consolidate and celebrate after a stretch goal is reached + 7 more
- Structured Reflection Kolb S Learning Cycle in Practice After a Loss
Structured Reflection: Kolb’s Learning Cycle in Practice · Kolb’s Experiential Learning Cycle: Learning by Doing and Reflecting · Extract a generalizable principle from what you observed + 7 more
- Structured Reflection Kolb S Learning Cycle in Practice Before Bed
Structured Reflection: Kolb’s Learning Cycle in Practice · Kolb’s Experiential Learning Cycle: Learning by Doing and Reflecting · Build a weekly reflection ritual so the cycle runs regularly + 7 more
- Stuck at a Hard Choice Can I Even Do This Just Loops in My Head and Freezes Me but When I Picture Someone I Admire Standing in My Shoes the Move Suddenly Looks Obvious and I Want That Perspective Handy Right at the Moment I'd Normally Stall
Borrow an identity temporarily by asking "what would [person] do?" · Reverse the problem to break fixation · Use the journal to externalize decisions you are stuck on + 7 more
- Studying This is a Slog and I Can't Tell If the Struggle is the Good Kind That's Actually Building Something or Just a Wall I Keep Slamming Into So I Either Grind Through Pointless Frustration or Quit Hard Things That Were Probably Worth Pushing Through
Tell desirable difficulty from plain obstacle · Reframe difficulty and errors as the mechanism, not the obstacle · Tune the difficulty to your current level + 7 more
- Stuff is Piling Up in a Dozen Different Places Email the Notes App Sticky Notes Voicemails I Haven't Listened to and Every Unread Thing is One More Nagging Thread in the Back of My Mind That I Can't Fully Put Down
Clear every inbox to zero at the start of the review · Classify every captured item as an Action Step, Reference, or Backburner · Keep a task-unrelated thought log + 7 more
- Subordinate Doesn't Want to Report Sexual Misconduct to Hr How Should a Manager Handle This
Send proactive, brief status updates · Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up · Respond non-punitively to mistakes + 7 more
- Successful Project Being Taken by Higher Ranking Vp Feel Demoralized
Inform stakeholders before they ask, not after they complain · Map your manager’s top three priorities · Deliberately expand your inner circle + 7 more
- Sudden Job Contract Termination After Just 8 Days How Should I Handle This
Evaluate offers on their content, not on the timing of when they arrived · Handling external interruptions · Pause before attributing intent + 7 more
- Suddenly This Topic is Everywhere Same Story in Every Feed Every Conversation and My Alarm Keeps Ratcheting Up but I Can't Tell Whether Something Genuinely Got Worse Out There or It's Just the Same Handful of Events Being Told and Retold Louder and Louder
Recognize when a concern is being socially amplified · Trace where your sense of risk actually came from · Find base-rate data to calibrate the threat + 7 more
- Sufi Dhikr the Practice of Remembrance with My Partner
Sufi Dhikr: The Practice of Remembrance · Understanding the goal: polishing the mirror of the heart · Hadra: the Sufi dhikr ceremony + 7 more
- Survivorship Bias Learning From What You Can T See Before Bed
Survivorship Bias: Learning from What You Can’t See · Build a personal library of failure post-mortems · Steelman the strategy opposite to the successful one + 7 more
- Survivorship Bias Learning From What You Can T See When Starting Out
Survivorship Bias: Learning from What You Can’t See · Build a personal library of failure post-mortems · Steelman the strategy opposite to the successful one + 7 more
- Survivorship Bias Learning From What You Can T See with My Partner
Survivorship Bias: Learning from What You Can’t See · Build a personal library of failure post-mortems · Actively seek out the failures you aren’t seeing + 7 more
- Svadhyaya Self Study as a Daily Practice After a Loss
Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice · The daily examen (end-of-day review) · Reframing loss as transformation + 7 more
- Svadhyaya Self Study as a Daily Practice After a Setback
Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice · The daily examen (end-of-day review) · Negative visualization (premeditatio malorum) + 7 more
- Svadhyaya Self Study as a Daily Practice as a Caregiver
Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice · The daily examen (end-of-day review) · Practice daily self-transcendence + 7 more
- Svadhyaya Self Study as a Daily Practice as a Parent
Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice · The daily examen (end-of-day review) · Slow reading of a wisdom text + 7 more
- Svadhyaya Self Study as a Daily Practice Before Bed
Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice · The daily examen (end-of-day review) · The Pythagorean evening examination (Hadot’s version) + 7 more
- Svadhyaya Self Study as a Daily Practice for My Teenager
Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice · The daily examen (end-of-day review) · The Stoic Daily Review + 7 more
- Svadhyaya Self Study as a Daily Practice in a New Job
Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice · The daily examen (end-of-day review) · The assumption audit + 7 more
- Svadhyaya Self Study as a Daily Practice on a Budget
Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice · The daily examen (end-of-day review) · Slow reading of a wisdom text + 7 more
- Svadhyaya Self Study as a Daily Practice When Burned Out
Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice · The daily examen (end-of-day review) · Practice daily self-transcendence + 7 more
- Svadhyaya Self Study as a Daily Practice When Overwhelmed
Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice · The daily examen (end-of-day review) · Witness journaling + 7 more
- Svadhyaya Self Study as a Daily Practice When Starting Out
Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice · The daily examen (end-of-day review) · Slow reading of a wisdom text + 7 more
- Svadhyaya Self Study as a Daily Practice with Friends
Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice · The daily examen (end-of-day review) · Mussar vaad: group practice and teaching + 7 more
- Svadhyaya Self Study as a Daily Practice with My Partner
Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice · The daily examen (end-of-day review) · Practice openness through regular self-disclosure + 7 more
- Svadhyaya Self Study as a Daily Practice with My Team
Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice · The daily examen (end-of-day review) · The Stoic Daily Review + 7 more
- Sympatheia the Stoic Practice of Universal Interconnection After a Loss
Sympatheia — the Stoic Practice of Universal Interconnection · Find belonging in nature and the cosmos · See the shared humanity in difficult people + 7 more
- Sympatheia the Stoic Practice of Universal Interconnection as a Caregiver
Sympatheia — the Stoic Practice of Universal Interconnection · Extend your circle of concern deliberately · Use mutual dependence as a motivation to act well + 7 more
- Sympatheia the Stoic Practice of Universal Interconnection Before Bed
Sympatheia — the Stoic Practice of Universal Interconnection · Find belonging in nature and the cosmos · Extend your circle of concern deliberately + 7 more
- Sympatheia the Stoic Practice of Universal Interconnection in a New Job
Sympatheia — the Stoic Practice of Universal Interconnection · Extend your circle of concern deliberately · Find belonging in nature and the cosmos + 7 more
- Sympatheia the Stoic Practice of Universal Interconnection When Burned Out
Sympatheia — the Stoic Practice of Universal Interconnection · Find belonging in nature and the cosmos · See the shared humanity in difficult people + 7 more
- Tacit Knowledge the Skill You Can T Fully Explain as a Parent
Tacit Knowledge: The Skill You Can’t Fully Explain · Apprentice yourself to observe tacit knowledge in action · Acquire tacit knowledge through extended immersive practice + 7 more
- Tacit Knowledge the Skill You Can T Fully Explain When Starting Out
Tacit Knowledge: The Skill You Can’t Fully Explain · Acquire tacit knowledge through extended immersive practice · Apprentice yourself to observe tacit knowledge in action + 7 more
- Tacit Knowledge the Skill You Can T Fully Explain with My Partner
Tacit Knowledge: The Skill You Can’t Fully Explain · Apprentice yourself to observe tacit knowledge in action · Acquire tacit knowledge through extended immersive practice + 7 more
- Tai Chi the Evidence for a Mind Body Practice After a Loss
Tai Chi: The Evidence for a Mind-Body Practice · Proprioception and joint awareness training · Reframing loss as transformation + 7 more
- Tai Chi the Evidence for a Mind Body Practice After a Setback
Tai Chi: The Evidence for a Mind-Body Practice · Proprioception and joint awareness training · Negative visualization (premeditatio malorum) + 7 more
- Tai Chi the Evidence for a Mind Body Practice as a Caregiver
Tai Chi: The Evidence for a Mind-Body Practice · Qigong: Evidence-Based Mind-Body Practice · Proprioception and joint awareness training + 7 more
- Tai Chi the Evidence for a Mind Body Practice as a Parent
Tai Chi: The Evidence for a Mind-Body Practice · Qigong: Evidence-Based Mind-Body Practice · Proprioception and joint awareness training + 7 more
- Tai Chi the Evidence for a Mind Body Practice Before Bed
Tai Chi: The Evidence for a Mind-Body Practice · Evening yoga routine for sleep · Qigong: Evidence-Based Mind-Body Practice + 7 more
- Tai Chi the Evidence for a Mind Body Practice for My Teenager
Tai Chi: The Evidence for a Mind-Body Practice · Tai chi for anxiety and depression · Regular tai chi for blood pressure reduction + 7 more
- Tai Chi the Evidence for a Mind Body Practice on a Budget
Tai Chi: The Evidence for a Mind-Body Practice · Qigong: Evidence-Based Mind-Body Practice · Regular tai chi for blood pressure reduction + 7 more
- Tai Chi the Evidence for a Mind Body Practice When Burned Out
Tai Chi: The Evidence for a Mind-Body Practice · Tai chi for anxiety and depression · Qigong for fatigue and energy restoration + 7 more
- Tai Chi the Evidence for a Mind Body Practice When Overwhelmed
Tai Chi: The Evidence for a Mind-Body Practice · Tai chi for anxiety and depression · Qigong: Evidence-Based Mind-Body Practice + 7 more
- Tai Chi the Evidence for a Mind Body Practice When Starting Out
Tai Chi: The Evidence for a Mind-Body Practice · Proprioception and joint awareness training · Qigong: Evidence-Based Mind-Body Practice + 7 more
- Tai Chi the Evidence for a Mind Body Practice with Friends
Tai Chi: The Evidence for a Mind-Body Practice · Qigong: Evidence-Based Mind-Body Practice · Tai chi for anxiety and depression + 7 more
- Talking to a Friend That Isn't Very Reasonable About People Having Different Opinions
State your confidence level alongside your position · Give yourself advice as if advising a close friend · Separate the argument from the arguer + 7 more
- Talking to Colleague with Short Skirt How Do I Not Come Off as a Creep
Calibrate mirroring to cultural and individual norms · Request the conversation the right way · Correct distracting by returning to what was avoided + 7 more
- Tapping a Card Never Feels Like Spending Anything the Money's Just a Number That Quietly Drains and by the Time I Look at the Statement It's Already Gone So I Want to Actually Hold My Limit in My Hand and Feel it Shrink as I Spend
Allocate cash envelopes at the start of each pay period · Use the pain of paying to slow down spending · Cultivate deliberate awareness of the pain signal during payment + 7 more
- Tapping a Card or Letting Things Auto Pay I Never Actually Feel the Money Leave It's Frictionless and Abstract So I Overspend Without the Slightest Sting and the Dollars Only Become Real When the Statement Lands
Use the pain of paying to slow down spending · Allocate cash envelopes at the start of each pay period · Cultivate deliberate awareness of the pain signal during payment + 7 more
- Task Initiation Overcoming the Start Problem After a Loss
Task Initiation: Overcoming the Start Problem · Front-load a small reward at the moment of initiation · Use a five-second micro-start to breach the initiation threshold + 7 more
- Task Initiation Overcoming the Start Problem After a Setback
Task Initiation: Overcoming the Start Problem · Use a five-second micro-start to breach the initiation threshold · Front-load a small reward at the moment of initiation + 7 more
- Task Initiation Overcoming the Start Problem as a Caregiver
Task Initiation: Overcoming the Start Problem · Use a five-second micro-start to breach the initiation threshold · Use a body double for low-initiation tasks + 7 more
- Task Initiation Overcoming the Start Problem as a Parent
Task Initiation: Overcoming the Start Problem · Use a five-second micro-start to breach the initiation threshold · Time-box with a visible countdown + 7 more
- Task Initiation Overcoming the Start Problem in a New Job
Task Initiation: Overcoming the Start Problem · Use a five-second micro-start to breach the initiation threshold · Build a two-minute transition buffer between activities + 7 more
- Task Initiation Overcoming the Start Problem on a Budget
Task Initiation: Overcoming the Start Problem · Use a five-second micro-start to breach the initiation threshold · Time-box with a visible countdown + 7 more
- Task Initiation Overcoming the Start Problem When Starting Out
Task Initiation: Overcoming the Start Problem · Use a five-second micro-start to breach the initiation threshold · Time-box with a visible countdown + 7 more
- Task Initiation Overcoming the Start Problem with My Partner
Task Initiation: Overcoming the Start Problem · Use a five-second micro-start to breach the initiation threshold · Use a body double for low-initiation tasks + 7 more
- Teen Displays Bullying Behavior Towards His Siblings and Also Towards My Kids How to Handle
Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation · Identify the mistaken goal behind the misbehavior · Refuse to energize negative behavior + 7 more
- Teenage Child with Severe Daily Temper Tantrums and Whining
Connect emotionally before you redirect or teach · Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate · Refuse to energize negative behavior + 7 more
- Telling a Child You Re Not Their Biological Parent
Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval · Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment · Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments + 7 more
- Telling Myself It'll Probably Go Badly Takes the Edge Off My Nerves but I'm Starting to Worry That Bracing for a Low Outcome is Quietly Becoming Permission to Actually Aim Low and Not Try as Hard
Hold low expectations while keeping high standards · Debrief after performance without letting relief collapse the strategy · Monitor for cumulative pessimism becoming self-fulfilling + 7 more
- Telling Myself to Resist a Craving Forever Feels Impossible and I Give Up Before I Start I Need the Task to Be Small Enough That I Can Actually Say Yes to it in the Moment the Urge is Screaming at Me
Buy time with a brief delay · Ride the wave to its peak and down · Surf the urge instead of fighting it + 7 more
Or describe your concern in your own words.