Coaching practices for Perspective Taking Kids

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• My child can’t seem to name what they’re feeling
• Every approach I come up with sounds like me, because I keep ruling out anything that doesn’t feel like something I’d do
• My child reacts to everything on pure impulse and never seems to stop and think how the other kid feels, and I want to actually build that thinking-and-considering muscle during our good calm moments, not just keep firefighting once they’ve already lost it.
• I take my health, my safe home, water from the tap completely for granted
• I’ve built up this villain version of the other person in my head

Practices that may help

1. Build mindsight by reflecting inner experience
   Describe your own inner experience in everyday conversation to build the child’s "mind-seeing" capacity.
   The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
2. Ask what a specific other person would do
   Step into a named other’s perspective to access approaches you would not generate as yourself.
   Oblique Strategies, Made Practical
3. Engage the upstairs brain through curiosity and play
   Ask questions that require the child to think, imagine, or consider another perspective.
   The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
4. Take the perspective of someone without what you have
   Vividly inhabit the perspective of someone who lacks something you currently take for granted.
   Negative Visualization for Gratitude: The Stoic Path to Appreciation
5. Take their perspective accurately
   Build a precise model of how the situation looks from their side, not a caricature.
   Tactical Empathy
6. Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity
   Respond to the child’s world with curiosity and openness rather than threat and control.
   The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
7. Observe from multiple angles before drawing conclusions
   Deliberately take different perspectives on the experience before deciding what it means.
   Structured Reflection: Kolb’s Learning Cycle in Practice
8. Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
   Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
   Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
9. Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
   Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
10. Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
    Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)

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