Coaching practices for Pleasant Events Scheduling During Conflict

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  • I schedule every single slot back-to-back, so the moment one unexpected thing lands
  • The moment we start arguing, any sense that I actually like and respect this person evaporates
  • In the heat of it I can never find the words to cool things down
  • The long-term work my team needs
  • Something’s genuinely wrong here and there’s no time to coax everyone to a comfortable yes

Practices that may help

  1. Pleasant Events Scheduling, Made Practical
    Pleasant events scheduling, developed by Peter Lewinsohn as part of behavioural activation, combats depression by deliberately reintroducing activities that generate positive reinforcement — reversing the withdrawal-and-low-mood cycle at its behavioural root. Multiple randomised trials support behavioural activation, of which pleasant events scheduling is a foundational component.
  2. Build buffer blocks into the ideal week
    Schedule 60–90 minutes of unallocated buffer each day to absorb the unexpected without derailing priorities.
    Ideal Week Design
  3. Protect fondness actively during and after conflict
    Conflict is the test of PSO — deliberately hold the positive frame while the negative one is loudest.
    Positive Sentiment Override: How to Build the Lens That Protects Relationships
  4. Build a shared repair vocabulary
    Agree on repair phrases in advance so both partners recognize them when they land mid-conflict.
    Repair Attempts: Gottman's Key to Surviving Conflict in Relationships
  5. Protect important-not-urgent work as a team commitment
    Schedule Q2 work on a shared calendar so urgent tasks can’t claim it by default.
    The Eisenhower Matrix for Teams
  6. Competing (assertive, uncooperative)
    Pursue your own position firmly when speed, principle, or stakes outweigh the relationship cost.
    The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles
  7. Protect mornings for deep work — no internal meetings before noon
    Morning is when cognitive capacity is highest for most people; spending it on reactive coordination is a predictable waste.
    Designing a Calm Company (Fried & Hansson)
  8. Protect Q2 time with scheduled blocks
    Schedule your most important non-urgent work in your calendar before the week begins — treat it as an appointment.
    The Eisenhower Matrix and Delegation
  9. Make extra deposits during difficult life periods
    External stress drains PSO — consciously increase positive interactions when life is hard.
    Positive Sentiment Override: How to Build the Lens That Protects Relationships
  10. Transform the relationship, not just the issue
    Use each conflict as an opportunity to raise the quality of the relationship itself.
    The Third Alternative, Made Practical

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