Coaching practices for Positive Expectation Social

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • I’m about to walk into a new job and a new neighborhood, and I’m already bracing for it to be awkward, rehearsing how they probably won’t take to me
  • Every time I set out toward something, the first predictable snag knocks me flat
  • I know I could do the work
  • I just don’t believe I can do this, and no amount of "you’ve got this" or hyping myself up moves that conviction an inch
  • Right before something big, the people around me pile on the "you’ll be amazing, don’t worry"

Practices that may help

  1. Use the anticipation of interaction to create liking before meeting
    Knowing you will interact with someone in the future makes you evaluate them more positively before it happens.
    The Propinquity Effect (Leon Festinger)
  2. Anticipate obstacles before they arise
    Hopeful thinking includes expecting barriers and planning responses — it is not uncritical optimism.
    Hope Theory: Agency, Pathways, and Getting Unstuck
  3. Clarify outcome expectations alongside efficacy expectations
    High confidence in your ability is not enough if you don’t believe the behavior will produce the outcome you want.
    Social Cognitive Theory
  4. Build expectancy through mastery experiences, not just affirmations
    Expectancy — the belief that you can succeed — grows from actual small wins, not self-talk.
    Expectancy-Value Theory: Why You Try (or Don’t)
  5. Protect the strategy from well-meaning optimism
    Recognize that others’ "positive thinking" attempts before your performance will disrupt your preparation — and manage that proactively.
    Defensive Pessimism, Made Practical
  6. Socialise your values and expectations to reduce hidden motivation barriers
    Others’s expectations and transmitted values shape whether you believe you belong in a domain — making implicit messages explicit clears hidden motivation blocks.
    Expectancy-Value Theory: Why You Try (or Don’t)
  7. Anticipatory savoring
    Deliberately look forward to a future good event to extract joy before it arrives.
    Savoring: Getting More From the Good
  8. Expectancy-Value Theory: Why You Try (or Don’t)
    Jacquelynne Eccles’s expectancy-value theory proposes that motivation to pursue a task is jointly determined by two factors: expectancy (your belief that you can succeed) and value (how much you care about success). Both are required — high value with low expectancy produces anxiety and avoidance; high expectancy with low value produces competent indifference. The theory has a substantial empirical base primarily in academic achievement contexts, with reasonable generalisation to broader life domains.
  9. Positive Sentiment Override: How to Build the Lens That Protects Relationships
    Positive sentiment override (PSO) is Gottman’s term for a perceptual state in which the accumulated goodwill in a relationship causes partners to interpret neutral or mildly negative partner behavior charitably — as a mistake or a bad moment, not as evidence of ill intent. PSO is built through consistent positive interactions over time; its opposite, negative sentiment override, develops when negative interactions dominate and even neutral behavior is read as hostile. The evidence is observational; direct experimental manipulation of PSO as a clinical target is limited.
  10. Share positive experiences with others to amplify them
    Tell someone about a good experience while it is still fresh — social sharing multiplies the positive emotion.
    Savoring the Moment, Made Practical

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