Coaching practices for Power Posing Revisited as a Parent
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Every little thing turns into a power struggle because my kid wants to control everything, and I’m stuck between bossing them through the whole day or handing them a freedom they’re not ready for
- I lose my temper with my kid and then feel sick about it for hours
- Even when I sit down to play with my kid I catch myself steering it
- Every time I put my foot down and insist, my kid blows up worse
- All day my kid keeps coming to show me things and I keep saying "in a minute" because I’m busy, and then the moment I need them to cooperate they dig in
Practices that may help
- Power Posing Revisited
Amy Cuddy’s original 2010 claim — that two minutes of expansive posture changes hormone levels and risk-taking — failed to replicate reliably, and even one of the original co-authors distanced herself from the hormonal mechanism. The more modest finding — that posture affects subjective confidence and behavior — has held up better, though the effect sizes are small. The honest take: posture matters, the original claims were overreached, and the useful practices are simpler and more defensible than the original study suggested. - Give age-appropriate autonomy within non-negotiable limits
Let the child choose within the boundaries you set — the choice builds competence; the boundary provides safety.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind) - Manage your own emotional state before responding
A regulated parent is the single most powerful behavior management tool available.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Recognize when Plan A (unilateral imposition) makes things worse
Adult-imposed solutions can win the battle and lose the war — notice when enforcement is escalating rather than solving.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Say yes to bids for connection before enforcing limits
A child’s capacity to accept limits depends on how connected they feel to the person setting them.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind) - Use family meetings to solve problems together
When children help solve the problem, they own the solution — and solutions they own, they actually follow.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Provide warmth and structure simultaneously
Children need to know they are loved and to know what is expected — these work together, not against each other.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind) - Accept your role (not its outcomes) as your commitment
Commit to the role — parent, manager, friend, citizen — as a practice, with its obligations, not as a guarantee of outcomes.
The Stoic Reserve Clause - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
Related concerns
- Choice Architecture As A Parent
Choice architecture — the arrangement of options in a decision environment — powerfully biases outcomes through default effects, ordering, salience, and framing. Thaler and Sunstein showed this is true whether or not anyone designed it deliberately, which means you can redesign your environment to bias yourself toward better choices.
- Committed Action As A Parent
Committed action — a core ACT process developed by Steven Hayes — means taking concrete, repeated steps toward what you value even while discomfort is present, rather than waiting for the feeling of readiness. It is the behavioral spine of ACT, which has substantial randomized-trial support across anxiety, depression, chronic pain, and other conditions.
- How Do I Handle When My Step Kids Parent Buys Them Everything They Want
When children help solve the problem, they own the solution — and solutions they own, they actually follow.
Use family meetings to solve problems together
- How To Be A Firm Loving Parent
Kind without firm is permissive; firm without kind is authoritarian. The practice is holding both at once.
Be kind AND firm — simultaneously, not alternately
- When Authoritative Parenting Scaffold Autonomy
Let the child choose within the boundaries you set — the choice builds competence; the boundary provides safety.
Give age-appropriate autonomy within non-negotiable limits
- Adlerian Parenting
Positive Discipline, developed by Jane Nelsen and based on Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs’s work, is a parenting and classroom approach that is simultaneously kind and firm — neither permissive nor punitive. Its central premise is that children do better when they feel a sense of belonging and significance, and that most misbehavior is an ineffective attempt to achieve one of these. The approach has strong clinical adoption and is consistent with authoritative parenting research, though controlled trials on the specific Positive Discipline curriculum are limited.
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