Coaching practices for Present Moment Emotion Regulation
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- When a big feeling crashes over me it’s like I become it
- It’s peaking right now and my mind is yanked into either what just caused this or what’s about to go wrong
- My moods seem to come out of nowhere
- I keep saying yes to the same gatherings and commitments that reliably leave me drained and rattled, then trying to white-knuckle my way through the feelings once I’m there
- Something sets me off and I’m already reacting before I’ve even thought
Practices that may help
- Mindfulness of the current emotion
Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical - Anchor in the physical present during an emotional peak
Use a physical anchor — your breath, your feet on the floor, a physical object — to stay in the present moment while the wave crests.
The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical - Map your emotional landscape
Identify which situations reliably produce which emotions for you — before you need to regulate them.
Situation Selection, Made Practical - Situation selection
Choose or avoid situations based on their likely emotional consequences — regulation before the event.
Cognitive Reappraisal vs. Suppression, Made Practical - Self-regulation
Manage disruptive impulses and moods so you respond by choice rather than reflex.
Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical - Observe the emotion without feeding it
When a strong emotion hits, watch it without adding the story that keeps it going.
The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical - Distinguish suppression from reappraisal in the moment
Learn to tell when you are actually regulating versus just masking — the experience is different once you know what to look for.
The Costs of Expressive Suppression, Made Practical - Name what the emotion is doing in your body
Track the physical signs of the emotion as they move through — this alone reduces their intensity.
The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical - O — Observe: Notice What Is Actually Happening
After the stop, observe the situation, your emotions, and your urges — without judgment and without acting on them.
The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments - Name the emotions the situation will likely produce
Predict which feelings will show up and at what intensity — so they are not surprises when they arrive.
Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations
Related concerns
- Act Emotional Regulation
Choose or avoid situations based on their likely emotional consequences — regulation before the event.
Situation selection
- Antecedent Emotion Regulation
Choose or avoid situations based on their likely emotional consequences — regulation before the event.
- Emotional Regulation Sequence
Choose or avoid situations based on their likely emotional consequences — regulation before the event.
- Upstream Emotion Regulation
Choose or avoid situations based on their likely emotional consequences — regulation before the event.
- Emotion Regulation Memory
Learn to tell when you are actually regulating versus just masking — the experience is different once you know what to look for.
Distinguish suppression from reappraisal in the moment
- Emotion Regulation Skills
DBT’s emotion regulation module teaches you to understand what emotions are and why they fire, reduce vulnerability to emotional overwhelm, and change unwanted emotional states through specific skills. DBT as a whole has strong randomized-trial support; the individual skills are established clinical practice rather than separately trialed units.
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