Coaching practices for Reappraise Failure

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• When something goes badly I’ll pick it apart for hours, but when something actually goes great I just enjoy it and move on without a second thought
• When I look at what went wrong this year I catch myself blaming the timing, other people, the circumstances
• When something doesn’t land the way I hoped, I write the whole thing off as a failure and myself along with it
• I just hit a real failure
• I finally tried something and it only half-worked, and my whole brain went "see, nothing I do ever works"

Practices that may help

1. Apply the AAR to successes, not only setbacks
   Reviewing what actually caused a win produces replicable insight; reviewing only failures produces only loss-avoidance.
   After-Action Review: The US Army’s Tool for Continuous Learning
2. Spend more time on "what did not go well" than on what did
   Failure analysis contains the most actionable information in any honest review.
   The Annual Review (Tim Ferriss Method)
3. Reframe feedback from outcome to process
   After any outcome — good or bad — ask "what did I do well?" before "how did it go?"
   The Confidence–Competence Loop
4. Recover from setbacks without quitting the goal
   Build a routine for bouncing back so setbacks don’t end the pursuit.
   Grit: Passion and Perseverance, Honestly Assessed
5. Evaluate the outcome and adjust
   After implementing, honestly assess what worked, what didn’t, and what to do next.
   Problem-Solving Therapy, Made Practical
6. Separate judgment from analysis in the debrief
   The AAR only produces learning when the analysis phase is free of performance judgments.
   After-Action Review: The US Army’s Tool for Continuous Learning
7. Review process goal execution separately from outcomes after each performance
   Evaluate how well you executed your process goals independently of whether you won or lost.
   Process Goals, Made Practical
8. Treat setbacks as information, not identity
   Read failure as feedback on the approach, not a verdict on you.
   Growth Mindset: The Honest Version
9. Reframe the critic’s verdict as data, not identity
   When the critic says "you failed," redirect to "what can I learn?" — a specific question, not a pep talk.
   Working With Your Inner Critic
10. Debrief performances to recover from threat appraisals
    After a high-stakes event, restructure what happened to extract learning and reduce the residual threat signal.
    Challenge vs. Threat Appraisal, Made Practical

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