Coaching practices for Review Success Not Just Failure

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• When something goes badly I’ll pick it apart for hours, but when something actually goes great I just enjoy it and move on without a second thought
• When I look at what went wrong this year I catch myself blaming the timing, other people, the circumstances
• I lost, so I’ve written the whole thing off as a failure
• I finally tried something and it only half-worked, and my whole brain went "see, nothing I do ever works"
• At the end of the day my failures are vivid and my wins are invisible

Practices that may help

1. Apply the AAR to successes, not only setbacks
   Reviewing what actually caused a win produces replicable insight; reviewing only failures produces only loss-avoidance.
   After-Action Review: The US Army’s Tool for Continuous Learning
2. Spend more time on "what did not go well" than on what did
   Failure analysis contains the most actionable information in any honest review.
   The Annual Review (Tim Ferriss Method)
3. Review process goal execution separately from outcomes after each performance
   Evaluate how well you executed your process goals independently of whether you won or lost.
   Process Goals, Made Practical
4. Evaluate the outcome and adjust
   After implementing, honestly assess what worked, what didn’t, and what to do next.
   Problem-Solving Therapy, Made Practical
5. Balance the review with a genuine positive inventory
   List three specific things you did well today — not three things that went well, but three things you did.
   The Pythagorean Evening Review
6. Reframe feedback from outcome to process
   After any outcome — good or bad — ask "what did I do well?" before "how did it go?"
   The Confidence–Competence Loop
7. Score decision quality separately from outcome quality
   Judge the process you used — not whether it worked — when you review a past decision.
   Decision Journaling: Learning to Decide Better Over Time
8. Treat setbacks as information, not identity
   Read failure as feedback on the approach, not a verdict on you.
   Growth Mindset: The Honest Version
9. Canonical contrast after failure
   After your attempts, examine the expert solution specifically for what your approaches were missing.
   Productive Failure: How Struggling First Makes Instruction More Effective
10. Apply attributional retraining to success as well as failure
    Attribute genuine successes to stable, internal, and global factors — not to luck or circumstance alone.
    Attributional Retraining, Made Practical

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