Coaching practices for Restorative Justice Voluntary
Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Restorative Justice Voluntary, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.
Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I’m being pushed into a sit-down with the person who hurt me before I’m anywhere near ready, and I can feel that being made to face them right now would set me back rather than help
- We’re trying to settle this just between the two of us, but the truth is a whole group felt the fallout and their trust took a hit too
- The person did the work to make it right, but everyone’s still keeping them at arm’s length
- We had the emotional talk, there were tears and apologies, and then nothing actually changed
- Something went wrong between us and everyone immediately jumps to whose fault it is
Practices that may help
- Ensure participation is voluntary for all parties
Restorative processes only work when everyone — especially the harmed party — chooses to participate.
Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr) - Involve the affected community, not just the two parties
Harm rarely affects only two people — include those affected by the ripple.
Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr) - Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr)
Restorative justice is an approach to harm that focuses on repairing relationships and meeting the needs of those harmed, rather than on punishment. Developed by Howard Zehr and others, it asks three questions: Who was harmed? What do they need? Who is responsible for meeting those needs? Research on restorative programs shows higher victim satisfaction and, in many contexts, lower reoffending compared to conventional punitive approaches — though results vary by context. - Aim for reintegration, not permanent labeling
Accountability is not a permanent identity; the goal is for the responsible party to re-enter the community as a full member.
Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr) - Build a concrete accountability agreement
Accountability is a plan, not just a feeling — write down what will be done, by whom, and by when.
Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr) - Ask the three restorative questions
Start every harm conversation with: who was hurt, what do they need, and who is responsible for meeting those needs?
Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr) - Make the harm visible through an impact statement
The person who caused harm must hear — in detail — what the harm actually did to the person harmed.
Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr) - Facilitated reconciliation circle
Bring all affected parties together with a neutral guide to name harm, ask forgiveness, and restore relationship.
Ho'oponopono: Hawaiian Forgiveness and Reconciliation - The keeper holds process, not content
The circle keeper’s job is to protect the process — not to facilitate outcomes, give advice, or judge.
The Circle Process (Kay Pranis) - Actively restore the ratio after a major rupture
After a bad fight, the ratio is temporarily negative -- restoration requires intentional positive investment.
The Magic Relationship Ratio: Gottman's 5-to-1 Principle
Related concerns
- Restorative Justice Community
Harm rarely affects only two people — include those affected by the ripple.
Involve the affected community, not just the two parties
- Restorative Justice Howard Zehr At Work
Restorative justice is an approach to harm that focuses on repairing relationships and meeting the needs of those harmed, rather than on punishment. Developed by Howard Zehr and others, it asks three questions: Who was harmed? What do they need? Who is responsible for meeting those needs? Research on restorative programs shows higher victim satisfaction and, in many contexts, lower reoffending compared to conventional punitive approaches — though results vary by context.
- Restorative Justice Howard Zehr On A Budget
Restorative justice is an approach to harm that focuses on repairing relationships and meeting the needs of those harmed, rather than on punishment. Developed by Howard Zehr and others, it asks three questions: Who was harmed? What do they need? Who is responsible for meeting those needs? Research on restorative programs shows higher victim satisfaction and, in many contexts, lower reoffending compared to conventional punitive approaches — though results vary by context.
- Restorative Justice Questions
Restorative justice is an approach to harm that focuses on repairing relationships and meeting the needs of those harmed, rather than on punishment. Developed by Howard Zehr and others, it asks three questions: Who was harmed? What do they need? Who is responsible for meeting those needs? Research on restorative programs shows higher victim satisfaction and, in many contexts, lower reoffending compared to conventional punitive approaches — though results vary by context.
- Impact Statement Restorative Justice
Harm rarely affects only two people — include those affected by the ripple.
- Restorative Justice Howard Zehr After A Loss
Restorative justice is an approach to harm that focuses on repairing relationships and meeting the needs of those harmed, rather than on punishment. Developed by Howard Zehr and others, it asks three questions: Who was harmed? What do they need? Who is responsible for meeting those needs? Research on restorative programs shows higher victim satisfaction and, in many contexts, lower reoffending compared to conventional punitive approaches — though results vary by context.
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