Coaching practices for Returning to the Workplace After Sexual Harassment and Arrest of Harasser

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  • I’m being pushed into a sit-down with the person who hurt me before I’m anywhere near ready, and I can feel that being made to face them right now would set me back rather than help
  • The person did the work to make it right, but everyone’s still keeping them at arm’s length
  • Something went wrong between us and everyone immediately jumps to whose fault it is
  • They keep treating what they did as a rule they broke, an abstraction — and they have no real idea what it actually did to me day to day.
  • We’re trying to settle this just between the two of us, but the truth is a whole group felt the fallout and their trust took a hit too

Practices that may help

  1. Ensure participation is voluntary for all parties
    Restorative processes only work when everyone — especially the harmed party — chooses to participate.
    Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr)
  2. Aim for reintegration, not permanent labeling
    Accountability is not a permanent identity; the goal is for the responsible party to re-enter the community as a full member.
    Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr)
  3. Ask the three restorative questions
    Start every harm conversation with: who was hurt, what do they need, and who is responsible for meeting those needs?
    Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr)
  4. Make the harm visible through an impact statement
    The person who caused harm must hear — in detail — what the harm actually did to the person harmed.
    Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr)
  5. Involve the affected community, not just the two parties
    Harm rarely affects only two people — include those affected by the ripple.
    Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr)
  6. Respond immediately and visibly to safety violations
    When safety is violated — a person is mocked, shut down, or punished for dissent — address it in the moment.
    The Four Stages of Psychological Safety
  7. Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr)
    Restorative justice is an approach to harm that focuses on repairing relationships and meeting the needs of those harmed, rather than on punishment. Developed by Howard Zehr and others, it asks three questions: Who was harmed? What do they need? Who is responsible for meeting those needs? Research on restorative programs shows higher victim satisfaction and, in many contexts, lower reoffending compared to conventional punitive approaches — though results vary by context.
  8. Build a concrete accountability agreement
    Accountability is a plan, not just a feeling — write down what will be done, by whom, and by when.
    Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr)
  9. Debrief and repair after the conflict is over
    The conversation after the fight -- done calmly -- is where lasting repair happens.
    Repair Attempts: Gottman's Key to Surviving Conflict in Relationships
  10. Take a structured time-out
    Exit the provocation situation temporarily with a plan to re-engage — not as avoidance, but as arousal regulation.
    Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical

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