Coaching practices for Rumination Focused Cbt with My Partner

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• Once the brooding starts I can’t think my way out of it, and the things I reach for to distract
• It’s like certain spots set me off automatically
• The same thought keeps circling back
• When I’m calm I can sort of see how to think more concretely, but the second I’m actually upset that ability vanishes and I’m right back in the abstract spiral
• The loop in my head is pure attack

Practices that may help

1. Rumination-Focused CBT, Made Practical
   Rumination-Focused CBT (RFCBT), developed by Edward Watkins, targets the extended, abstract, self-critical thinking style that maintains depression — not just negative thoughts. It trains people to shift from abstract "why" rumination to concrete "how" thinking and compassionate, specific engagement with experience. Randomised trials show it reduces depressive rumination and relapse rates.
2. Use absorbing activities to exit rumination
   Identify activities that fully capture your attention and deploy them as rumination interrupters.
   Rumination-Focused CBT, Made Practical
3. Restructure the environment that cues rumination
   Change the physical context that reliably initiates your rumination loops.
   Rumination-Focused CBT, Made Practical
4. Using noting to interrupt rumination
   When a rumination loop begins, note each recurrence — "thinking about X again" — to de-fuse from the thought rather than fight it.
   Noting Practice, Made Practical
5. Practise concrete thinking with neutral material
   Build the concrete processing habit with low-stakes content before applying it to distressing topics.
   Rumination-Focused CBT, Made Practical
6. Apply self-compassion to replace self-critical rumination
   Respond to self-critical loops with the same warmth you would offer a struggling friend.
   Rumination-Focused CBT, Made Practical
7. Identify what triggers rumination and what it promises
   Map the cues, perceived benefits, and costs of your personal rumination pattern.
   Rumination-Focused CBT, Made Practical
8. Counting distraction during havening
   Count aloud or silently while stroking to occupy the verbal mind and prevent rumination.
   Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
9. Gather: narrow attention to the breath
   After acknowledging the moment, collect your attention onto the physical sensations of breathing.
   The Three-Minute Breathing Space
10. Train attention to interrupt rumination and worry
    Rumination is attentional deployment gone wrong — building the skill of redirecting attention breaks the loop.
    Attentional Deployment, Made Practical

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