Coaching practices for See Their Point of View

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I’ve built up this villain version of the other person in my head
• We keep talking past each other and they won’t move an inch, and I think the real block is that they don’t feel I’ve actually understood where they’re coming from
• I replay what happened and I only ever see it from my own side
• The thing I’m proposing genuinely matters to them, but they don’t see it yet
• I want people to walk away from talking to me feeling like I really got it

Practices that may help

1. Take their perspective accurately
   Build a precise model of how the situation looks from their side, not a caricature.
   Tactical Empathy
2. Lead with tactical empathy
   Understand and voice the other side’s perspective before you ever advance your own.
   Never Split the Difference, In Practice
3. Observe from multiple angles before drawing conclusions
   Deliberately take different perspectives on the experience before deciding what it means.
   Structured Reflection: Kolb’s Learning Cycle in Practice
4. Increase personal relevance to shift the audience to the central route
   Show people what is personally at stake before presenting your argument.
   Elaboration Likelihood Model, Made Practical
5. Reflect back what you heard
   Mirror the speaker’s feeling and content back to them so they can hear themselves accurately.
   Active Listening, Made Practical
6. Right view — seeing clearly rather than through distortion
   Examine a current problem or belief and ask whether you are seeing it as it actually is or through a lens of craving, aversion, or misperception.
   The Noble Eightfold Path as a Practical Life Framework
7. Take the perspective of someone without what you have
   Vividly inhabit the perspective of someone who lacks something you currently take for granted.
   Negative Visualization for Gratitude: The Stoic Path to Appreciation
8. See things from the other person’s point of view
   Try honestly to see things from the other person’s angle before you argue your own.
   How to Win Friends and Influence People, Made Practical
9. Perspective rotation: inhabiting another’s view
   Construct the strongest, most internally coherent version of a view that opposes your own.
   Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift
10. Adjust for your egocentric starting point
    Actively consider how your message looks from a perspective that does not share your context.
    Closeness-Communication Bias

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