Coaching practices for Self Affirmation Theory

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I keep telling myself "I’m great at this, I’ve got this" right before the thing I’m scared of, and it somehow makes me feel worse
• Before any big evaluation my whole sense of worth narrows down to how I’ll perform in that one room, and if I bomb it I feel like I’m worthless as a person
• I’ve got a big evaluation looming and I can already feel myself bracing to defend my whole worth on it
• The person I’m trying to help has basically given up on themselves
• Walking into this test I can feel the weight of proving that people like me can do it, and that pressure eats up so much of my head that I choke on the very thing I’m most afraid of confirming about my group.

Practices that may help

1. Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
   Claude Steele’s self-affirmation theory holds that people protect their sense of moral adequacy by reflecting on values that are genuinely important to them — and that doing so reduces defensive reactions to threats. The evidence for reducing defensiveness and improving openness to threatening information is solid; claims that brief affirmations broadly raise achievement are more contested.
2. Use affirmation of values, not affirmation of ability
   Affirm that you are a good person with important values — not that you are good at the specific thing you are anxious about.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
3. Use value-based self-affirmation before threatening evaluations
   Before a threatening evaluation, write for 10 minutes about a value that matters to you — unrelated to the domain being evaluated.
   Power Posing Revisited
4. Write about a value that matters to you
   Before a stressful or threatening situation, spend five minutes writing about a value that is genuinely important to you.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
5. Affirm genuine strengths and effort
   Notice and name real strengths the person brings — not empty praise.
   Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical
6. Use values affirmation to counter stereotype threat
   When your social identity is under threat, a brief values reflection can protect performance.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
7. Build self-knowledge from behavioral evidence
   Ground your self-beliefs in specific past behaviors, not feelings or others’ opinions.
   Self-Concept Clarity, Made Practical
8. Affirmations
   Repeat chosen statements about who you are and what you’re committed to.
   The Miracle Morning, Made Practical
9. Self-Verification Theory, Made Practical
   Self-verification theory holds that people actively seek feedback confirming their existing self-concept — even if that concept is negative — because predictability feels safer than accurate praise that destabilizes who they think they are. Changing requires more than new information; it requires updating the self-concept itself.
10. Affirm a different value after a failure
    When you fail in one area, actively invest in a domain where you know you contribute.
    Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical

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