Coaching practices for How Self Affirmation Works

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• I keep telling myself "I’m great at this, I’ve got this" right before the thing I’m scared of, and it somehow makes me feel worse
• I’ve tried saying the big confident lines in the mirror and they just ring hollow
• The person I’m trying to help has basically given up on themselves
• Before any big evaluation my whole sense of worth narrows down to how I’ll perform in that one room, and if I bomb it I feel like I’m worthless as a person
• When I’m rattled and need to ground myself in what actually matters to me, I freeze

Practices that may help

1. Use affirmation of values, not affirmation of ability
   Affirm that you are a good person with important values — not that you are good at the specific thing you are anxious about.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
2. Affirmations
   Repeat chosen statements about who you are and what you’re committed to.
   The Miracle Morning, Made Practical
3. Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
   Claude Steele’s self-affirmation theory holds that people protect their sense of moral adequacy by reflecting on values that are genuinely important to them — and that doing so reduces defensive reactions to threats. The evidence for reducing defensiveness and improving openness to threatening information is solid; claims that brief affirmations broadly raise achievement are more contested.
4. Affirm genuine strengths and effort
   Notice and name real strengths the person brings — not empty praise.
   Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical
5. Use value-based self-affirmation before threatening evaluations
   Before a threatening evaluation, write for 10 minutes about a value that matters to you — unrelated to the domain being evaluated.
   Power Posing Revisited
6. Map your value hierarchy
   Rank what you most value so you can draw on the strongest affirmation when you need it.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
7. Write about a value that matters to you
   Before a stressful or threatening situation, spend five minutes writing about a value that is genuinely important to you.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
8. Affirm a core value before a high-stakes decision
   Briefly reflecting on what matters most to you before a decision increases the chance you act consistently with it.
   Identity Priming, Made Practical
9. Use values affirmation to counter stereotype threat
   When your social identity is under threat, a brief values reflection can protect performance.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
10. Build self-knowledge from behavioral evidence
    Ground your self-beliefs in specific past behaviors, not feelings or others’ opinions.
    Self-Concept Clarity, Made Practical

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