Coaching practices for Self as Context Observing Self with My Team
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- My thoughts feel like they ARE me
- I narrate everything as "I AM stressed, I AM anxious," like it’s the whole truth of me, and I want to learn to say it more like "there’s tightness in my chest, I notice fear"
- Our team has patterns that everyone outside us seems to see clearly while none of us inside it can
- When a wave of fear or anger hits, it swallows me whole and I react before I even know I’ve reacted
- I’ve decided I just am this
Practices that may help
- Self-as-Context (Observing Self), Made Practical
Self-as-context is an ACT concept, developed by Steven Hayes, that distinguishes the stable "you that notices" from the thoughts, feelings, and stories that pass through your mind. Practicing it reduces the threat of painful self-stories by shifting identity from what you think and feel to the perspective that observes them. Support is theoretically strong within ACT; direct experimental isolation of this process is more limited than for defusion or acceptance. - Notice the noticer
Find the part of you that is observing the thought — and recognize it is not the thought.
Self-as-Context (Observing Self), Made Practical - Notice and name experience from observer position
Describe what is happening inside in the third person of the observer, not the first person of the content.
Self-as-Context (Observing Self), Made Practical - Use the Johari Window in team settings
Apply the window at the team level to improve shared understanding and reduce inter-member blind spots.
The Johari Window - Return to the observer during difficult emotional moments
When flooded by emotion, briefly step to the observing perspective before responding.
Self-as-Context (Observing Self), Made Practical - Self-as-context (the observing self)
Notice the steady "you" that observes thoughts and feelings without being defined by them.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Made Practical - Include a trusted other in high-stakes AARs
Self-conducted AARs have blind spots; a peer or coach who was not inside the event sees the causal story differently.
After-Action Review: The US Army’s Tool for Continuous Learning - Track self-stability over time
Notice when your sense of who you are shifts dramatically with context, mood, or others’ opinions — this instability is itself informative.
Self-Concept Clarity, Made Practical - Use the chessboard metaphor to anchor the perspective
You are the board on which thoughts and feelings play — not any of the pieces.
Self-as-Context (Observing Self), Made Practical - Separate the self from the self-story
Hold a self-label ("I’m an anxious person") as content your observer can watch, not as identity.
Self-as-Context (Observing Self), Made Practical
Related concerns
- Self As Context Observing Self At Work
Self-as-context is an ACT concept, developed by Steven Hayes, that distinguishes the stable "you that notices" from the thoughts, feelings, and stories that pass through your mind. Practicing it reduces the threat of painful self-stories by shifting identity from what you think and feel to the perspective that observes them. Support is theoretically strong within ACT; direct experimental isolation of this process is more limited than for defusion or acceptance.
- What Is Self As Context In Act
Self-as-context is an ACT concept, developed by Steven Hayes, that distinguishes the stable "you that notices" from the thoughts, feelings, and stories that pass through your mind. Practicing it reduces the threat of painful self-stories by shifting identity from what you think and feel to the perspective that observes them. Support is theoretically strong within ACT; direct experimental isolation of this process is more limited than for defusion or acceptance.
- Self As Context
Self-as-context is an ACT concept, developed by Steven Hayes, that distinguishes the stable "you that notices" from the thoughts, feelings, and stories that pass through your mind. Practicing it reduces the threat of painful self-stories by shifting identity from what you think and feel to the perspective that observes them. Support is theoretically strong within ACT; direct experimental isolation of this process is more limited than for defusion or acceptance.
- Self As Context Observing Self As A Caregiver
Self-as-context is an ACT concept, developed by Steven Hayes, that distinguishes the stable "you that notices" from the thoughts, feelings, and stories that pass through your mind. Practicing it reduces the threat of painful self-stories by shifting identity from what you think and feel to the perspective that observes them. Support is theoretically strong within ACT; direct experimental isolation of this process is more limited than for defusion or acceptance.
- Self As Context Observing Self During A Big Change
Notice when your sense of who you are shifts dramatically with context, mood, or others’ opinions — this instability is itself informative.
Track self-stability over time
- Self As Context Observing Self For My Teenager
Self-as-context is an ACT concept, developed by Steven Hayes, that distinguishes the stable "you that notices" from the thoughts, feelings, and stories that pass through your mind. Practicing it reduces the threat of painful self-stories by shifting identity from what you think and feel to the perspective that observes them. Support is theoretically strong within ACT; direct experimental isolation of this process is more limited than for defusion or acceptance.
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