Coaching practices for Self Concordant Goals After a Loss
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- The moment a goal gets hard I lose all sense of why I’m even doing it
- This used to be something I wanted, but ever since my boss started tracking it and someone’s always checking in, it’s curdled into a chore I do for them
- I lost, so I’ve written the whole thing off as a failure
- I’m down by so much the win is basically gone, and the second I realize that I mentally check out and just go through the motions
- I finally hit the thing I’d been grinding toward and the satisfaction lasted about an hour before I was already onto the next target
Practices that may help
- Anchor each goal to a named, personal value
Make the goal an expression of a specific value so it stays motivating when difficulty peaks.
Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical - Protect your sense of autonomy while pursuing the goal
Keep the goal yours even when a coach, boss, or partner is involved in it.
Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical - Review process goal execution separately from outcomes after each performance
Evaluate how well you executed your process goals independently of whether you won or lost.
Process Goals, Made Practical - Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical
Self-concordant goals, from Kennon Sheldon, are goals you pursue because they express who you genuinely are or what truly interests you — not because of guilt, social pressure, or external reward. Research finds that self-concordant goals are pursued with more sustained effort and produce greater well-being when achieved, even when the objective difficulty is held constant. - Shift goal emphasis under adversity
When an outcome goal becomes unachievable mid-competition, shift focus explicitly to process goals.
Process vs. Outcome Goals in Sport and Performance - Celebrate growth, not just goal attainment
Recognize progress in who you are becoming, not only whether you hit the number.
Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical - Invoke the possible self during setbacks
When you fail or stall, return to the hoped-for self — not to the outcome goal — as your re-orienting anchor.
Possible Selves, Made Practical - Run a structured mastery debrief after each performance
Immediately after any significant attempt, extract what worked before the memory fades.
Mastery Experiences - Use self-respect as the outcome measure — not just whether you got what you wanted
After any difficult interaction, ask: "Do I respect myself for how I showed up?" — not just "did I win?"
FAST: DBT’s Skill for Maintaining Self-Respect in Relationships - Affirm a different value after a failure
When you fail in one area, actively invest in a domain where you know you contribute.
Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Self Concordant Goals After A Setback
When you fail or stall, return to the hoped-for self — not to the outcome goal — as your re-orienting anchor.
Invoke the possible self during setbacks
- Goal Setting Theory After A Loss
Pursue goals to get better, not just to look good — especially for long-range work.
Adopt a mastery goal orientation, not just a performance one
- Self Concordance Motivation
Self-concordant goals, from Kennon Sheldon, are goals you pursue because they express who you genuinely are or what truly interests you — not because of guilt, social pressure, or external reward. Research finds that self-concordant goals are pursued with more sustained effort and produce greater well-being when achieved, even when the objective difficulty is held constant.
- Self Concordant Goals As A Parent
Self-concordant goals, from Kennon Sheldon, are goals you pursue because they express who you genuinely are or what truly interests you — not because of guilt, social pressure, or external reward. Research finds that self-concordant goals are pursued with more sustained effort and produce greater well-being when achieved, even when the objective difficulty is held constant.
- Self Concordant Goals At Work
Self-concordant goals, from Kennon Sheldon, are goals you pursue because they express who you genuinely are or what truly interests you — not because of guilt, social pressure, or external reward. Research finds that self-concordant goals are pursued with more sustained effort and produce greater well-being when achieved, even when the objective difficulty is held constant.
- Self Concordant Goals Before Bed
Self-concordant goals, from Kennon Sheldon, are goals you pursue because they express who you genuinely are or what truly interests you — not because of guilt, social pressure, or external reward. Research finds that self-concordant goals are pursued with more sustained effort and produce greater well-being when achieved, even when the objective difficulty is held constant.
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