Coaching practices for Self Havening Calming the Nervous System Through Touch at Work

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  • When I’m upset I instinctively want to hold my own face, the way someone would cup it if they were comforting me
  • I’m flooded and my thoughts are useless right now
  • I don’t want to only scramble for calm once I’m already in pieces
  • I’m too wound up to think my way calm
  • The upset is sitting in my body, not my thoughts

Practices that may help

  1. Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
    Self-havening uses slow, repetitive self-touch on the arms, face, and hands — combined with distraction or eye movements — to interrupt acute distress and lower arousal. The proposed mechanism (delta-wave induction via touch de-potentiating traumatic amygdala encodings) is plausible but not yet independently replicated at scale. As a brief self-soothing technique many people find it calming in the moment; it is not a proven clinical treatment and should not replace professional care for trauma or PTSD.
  2. Face havening
    Gently stroke your cheekbones and forehead to activate the facial calm response.
    Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
  3. Arm havening stroke
    Slowly stroke both forearms from shoulder to elbow while keeping attention off the distress.
    Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
  4. The Havening Place (safe-place induction)
    Combine havening strokes with a vividly imagined calm location to deepen resource anchoring.
    Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
  5. Five-senses self-soothe
    Deliberately engage each sense with something genuinely comforting to redirect attention and activate the soothing system.
    Self-Soothing, Made Practical
  6. Physical self-soothing
    Use touch, warmth, rocking, or breath to directly calm the nervous system.
    Self-Soothing, Made Practical
  7. Use soothing touch as a physiological anchor
    Physical self-touch — hand on heart, cupped hands on face — signals safety to the body.
    The Self-Compassion Break
  8. Use co-regulation — another settled nervous system — as a primary resource
    Your nervous system can synchronize with a calmer one nearby; proximity to settled people is regulation, not weakness.
    Neuroception: How Your Nervous System Reads Safety Before Your Mind Does
  9. Supportive touch
    Use a gentle physical gesture — a hand on the heart — to trigger the body’s soothing response.
    Self-Compassion, Made Practical
  10. Peripheral warmth and body temperature as a relaxation signal
    Notice and cultivate warmth in the hands and feet — the peripheral vasodilation that signals deep parasympathetic rest.
    The Relaxation Body-Mind, Made Practical

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