Coaching practices for Self Soothing When Burned Out
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I’m too wound up to think my way calm
- I’m too wound up to reason my way calm
- I keep telling myself the scrolling and the drinking are just me unwinding, but I notice I come out the other side emptier, not calmer
- I’ve been trying to ride this out completely alone and I just can’t bring myself down by myself
- I burn enormous energy trying to fix things that aren’t mine to fix, and then go quiet and just stew over the things I actually could do something about
Practices that may help
- Five-senses self-soothe
Deliberately engage each sense with something genuinely comforting to redirect attention and activate the soothing system.
Self-Soothing, Made Practical - Self-soothe through the five senses
Deliberately comfort yourself through sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch while the crisis peaks.
Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical - Distinguish soothing from numbing
Know the difference between self-soothing (active, present) and numbing (passive escape) — both reduce distress but in opposite directions.
Self-Soothing, Made Practical - Self-Soothing, Made Practical
Self-soothing is the skill of comforting and calming yourself during distress — through sensory input, self-compassionate internal dialogue, physical regulation, and deliberate attention management. It draws on well-established mechanisms: bottom-up sensory regulation, vagal activation, and self-compassion. Individual soothing techniques vary in evidence; the general category of self-regulation through internal resources is well grounded in both DBT and attachment research. - Soothe through connection
Reach for a regulated person — a phone call, a physical presence — when you cannot self-regulate alone.
Self-Soothing, Made Practical - Match coping mode to what is actually controllable
Use problem-focused coping when you can change the situation; emotion-focused coping when you cannot.
Stress Inoculation Training - Warm self-talk
Speak to yourself in distress the way you would speak to a struggling friend — warmly, honestly, and without blame.
Self-Soothing, Made Practical - Recover and recharge after intense emotion
After an emotional peak, deliberately allow recovery time — intense arousal depletes resources.
The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical - Self-soothing during conflict instead of demanding partner regulate you
Calm your own nervous system in the moment, rather than requiring your partner to change so you can feel better.
Differentiation of Self: David Schnarch’s Framework for Passionate Marriage - Physical self-soothing
Use touch, warmth, rocking, or breath to directly calm the nervous system.
Self-Soothing, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Self Soothing With My Team
Self-soothing is the skill of comforting and calming yourself during distress — through sensory input, self-compassionate internal dialogue, physical regulation, and deliberate attention management. It draws on well-established mechanisms: bottom-up sensory regulation, vagal activation, and self-compassion. Individual soothing techniques vary in evidence; the general category of self-regulation through internal resources is well grounded in both DBT and attachment research.
- Comforting Yourself
Self-soothing is the skill of comforting and calming yourself during distress — through sensory input, self-compassionate internal dialogue, physical regulation, and deliberate attention management. It draws on well-established mechanisms: bottom-up sensory regulation, vagal activation, and self-compassion. Individual soothing techniques vary in evidence; the general category of self-regulation through internal resources is well grounded in both DBT and attachment research.
- How To Soothe Yourself
Self-soothing is the skill of comforting and calming yourself during distress — through sensory input, self-compassionate internal dialogue, physical regulation, and deliberate attention management. It draws on well-established mechanisms: bottom-up sensory regulation, vagal activation, and self-compassion. Individual soothing techniques vary in evidence; the general category of self-regulation through internal resources is well grounded in both DBT and attachment research.
- Self Soothing
Self-soothing is the skill of comforting and calming yourself during distress — through sensory input, self-compassionate internal dialogue, physical regulation, and deliberate attention management. It draws on well-established mechanisms: bottom-up sensory regulation, vagal activation, and self-compassion. Individual soothing techniques vary in evidence; the general category of self-regulation through internal resources is well grounded in both DBT and attachment research.
- Self Soothing As A Caregiver
Reach for a regulated person — a phone call, a physical presence — when you cannot self-regulate alone.
Soothe through connection
- Self Soothing At Work
Self-soothing is the skill of comforting and calming yourself during distress — through sensory input, self-compassionate internal dialogue, physical regulation, and deliberate attention management. It draws on well-established mechanisms: bottom-up sensory regulation, vagal activation, and self-compassion. Individual soothing techniques vary in evidence; the general category of self-regulation through internal resources is well grounded in both DBT and attachment research.
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