Coaching practices for Self Talk Strategies When Starting Out

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• In my head I keep meaning to start and somehow never do, but on the rare times I actually say out loud "okay, I’m opening it now," my hands seem to follow the words
• I already know the exact situations that throw me
• When a problem gets hard my mind just goes quiet and blank and I sort of stall out staring at it
• I want to fix what I say to myself when I compete, but if I’m honest I can’t even reliably remember what that was
• The hardest moments are the joins and the exits

Practices that may help

1. Use verbal self-instruction to initiate
   Say out loud — or in writing — the exact action you are about to do before you do it.
   Task Initiation: Overcoming the Start Problem
2. Prepare "if-then" self-talk scripts for predictable pressure moments
   Pre-script your self-talk response to the specific situations most likely to derail you.
   Self-Talk Strategies, Made Practical
3. Use self-directed speech to regulate problem-solving
   Talk yourself through a hard task aloud; private speech is an internalized coaching voice.
   Zone of Proximal Development: Learning at Your Real Edge
4. Monitor your self-talk patterns to identify what to change
   Track what you actually say to yourself during and after performance before trying to change it.
   Self-Talk Strategies, Made Practical
5. Self-Talk Strategies, Made Practical
   Self-talk — the internal or external commentary we generate before and during performance — reliably affects performance outcomes, according to meta-analyses by Hatzigeorgiadis and colleagues. Instructional self-talk improves fine motor skill; motivational self-talk improves power and endurance tasks. The specific content and function of the self-talk matter more than whether it is positive or negative.
6. Build scripts for situation entry and transitions
   Prepare simple, natural openers and transitions so you’re not improvising from scratch under pressure.
   Overcoming Shyness: Philip Zimbardo’s Framework
7. Prepare coping self-talk in advance
   Script what you will say to yourself at the trigger, during the peak, and afterward — before you need it.
   Stress Inoculation Training
8. Use "we" language to describe your struggles
   Shift from "I always fail at this" to "this is something a lot of us find hard."
   Common Humanity, Made Practical
9. Talk to yourself in the third person
   Use your own name or "you" instead of "I" when working through a hard moment.
   Self-Distancing: Thinking Clearly About Your Own Problems
10. Replace critic monologue with compassionate self-talk
    Speak to yourself the way you would speak to a close friend in the same situation.
    Working With Your Inner Critic

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