Coaching practices for Self Talk Strategies for My Teenager
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I already know the exact situations that throw me
- I want to fix what I say to myself when I compete, but if I’m honest I can’t even reliably remember what that was
- When a problem gets hard my mind just goes quiet and blank and I sort of stall out staring at it
- Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
- In the moment my mind goes blank and the only voice in my head is “you can’t handle this”
Practices that may help
- Prepare "if-then" self-talk scripts for predictable pressure moments
Pre-script your self-talk response to the specific situations most likely to derail you.
Self-Talk Strategies, Made Practical - Monitor your self-talk patterns to identify what to change
Track what you actually say to yourself during and after performance before trying to change it.
Self-Talk Strategies, Made Practical - Use self-directed speech to regulate problem-solving
Talk yourself through a hard task aloud; private speech is an internalized coaching voice.
Zone of Proximal Development: Learning at Your Real Edge - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Prepare coping self-talk in advance
Script what you will say to yourself at the trigger, during the peak, and afterward — before you need it.
Stress Inoculation Training - Talk to yourself in the third person
Use your own name or "you" instead of "I" when working through a hard moment.
Self-Distancing: Thinking Clearly About Your Own Problems - Self-Talk Strategies, Made Practical
Self-talk — the internal or external commentary we generate before and during performance — reliably affects performance outcomes, according to meta-analyses by Hatzigeorgiadis and colleagues. Instructional self-talk improves fine motor skill; motivational self-talk improves power and endurance tasks. The specific content and function of the self-talk matter more than whether it is positive or negative. - Use verbal self-instruction to initiate
Say out loud — or in writing — the exact action you are about to do before you do it.
Task Initiation: Overcoming the Start Problem - Build zone check-ins into the daily routine
Asking "what zone are you in?" regularly makes zone awareness automatic rather than crisis-only.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Shift from "I am" to "I did"
Replace self-condemning labels with a precise description of the behavior.
Shame vs. Guilt: Why the Distinction Changes Everything
Related concerns
- Self Talk Strategies In A New Job
Pre-script your self-talk response to the specific situations most likely to derail you.
Prepare "if-then" self-talk scripts for predictable pressure moments
- Self Talk Strategies When Starting Out
Say out loud — or in writing — the exact action you are about to do before you do it.
Use verbal self-instruction to initiate
- Behavior Specific Self Talk
Pre-script your self-talk response to the specific situations most likely to derail you.
- If Then Self Talk
Pre-script your self-talk response to the specific situations most likely to derail you.
- Self Talk
Talk yourself through a hard task aloud; private speech is an internalized coaching voice.
Use self-directed speech to regulate problem-solving
- Self Talk Strategies At Work
Pre-script your self-talk response to the specific situations most likely to derail you.
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