Coaching practices for Separate Facts From Interpretation

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• I’m completely sure I know what’s going on here, but when I try to separate what I actually saw happen from the meaning I bolted onto it, I can’t cleanly tell where the facts stop and my interpretation starts
• We keep arguing in circles and I’ve realized half of it is that nobody’s separated what we actually know from what we’re each just assuming
• "She was being dismissive" feels like a plain fact to me, exactly as solid as "she left the meeting early"
• When my friend doesn’t text back, "she didn’t reply" and "she’s mad at me" land as the same single fact
• Someone does one small thing and within seconds I’ve built a whole story about what it means

Practices that may help

1. Separate the data from the narrative you’ve built around it
   List the raw facts, then list the story you’ve layered on top — and check whether the story actually follows.
   The Narrative Fallacy: Why We Can’t Stop Making Stories
2. White hat: establish the facts before opinion
   Separate what is known from what is inferred — the white hat is for data only, with no interpretation.
   Six Thinking Hats, Made Practical
3. Distinguish observable data from interpretation
   Separate what a camera would record from what you made of it.
   The Ladder of Inference
4. Identify the triggering situation
   Name exactly what happened — the objective event, not your interpretation of it.
   The Thought Record: CBT’s Core Self-Examination Tool
5. Master your stories
   Separate the facts from the story you’re telling about them before you react.
   Crucial Conversations, Made Practical
6. Check the story before you conclude
   Ask what they actually meant instead of convicting them on your interpretation.
   Generous Interpretation
7. Check the facts
   Before acting on an emotion, ask whether your interpretation of the situation actually fits the evidence.
   DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
8. Name the emotion and what triggered it
   Start by identifying the emotion specifically and the event that preceded it — without mixing interpretation in.
   Check the Facts, Made Practical
9. Rule out mind-reading and fortune-telling
   Catch the two most common interpretation errors — assuming you know what someone is thinking, or what is about to happen.
   Check the Facts, Made Practical
10. Examine the evidence for and against
    Systematically list what supports your interpretation and what doesn’t — like a fair-minded lawyer, not a prosecutor.
    Check the Facts, Made Practical

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