Coaching practices for Should a Parent Tell Their Child That Father Christmas is Not Real
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- My kid won’t put on the coat, won’t pack the lunch, and every fiber of me wants to swoop in and save them from the small fallout
- I tell my kid "good job" all day and it doesn’t seem to change anything
- I say "the answer is no," they push, and after the tenth round of whining I either blow up or just cave to make it stop
- When I ask my kid about their day I get one-word answers, and I realize I only ever ask about homework and chores
- I praise my kid constantly
Practices that may help
- Allow natural consequences to do the teaching
Step back and let the world respond — your child learns more from being cold than from being lectured about coats.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Hold limits calmly and consistently
A limit only works if you follow through; an enforced limit with warmth is more effective than a threatened limit delivered with anger.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind) - Talk with your child about their day and interests
Genuine conversational interest builds vocabulary, trust, and the relationship buffer that makes limits land without conflict.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Sportscast what you see rather than directing
Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Schedule and protect special time as a non-negotiable
Put it in the calendar, name it, and keep the appointment.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Praise process, not innate ability
Acknowledge effort, strategy, and choices rather than "you’re so smart".
Growth Mindset: The Honest Version
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Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
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Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
- Encouraging A Child To Follow Their Natural Gifts
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
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Respond to the child’s world with curiosity and openness rather than threat and control.
Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity
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Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
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Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
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