Coaching practices for Similar Emotions
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Something big happened and I feel two opposite things at once
- When a feeling takes over I’m just lost inside it, like it’s the whole room
- I called it anger and went off about it, but underneath I think I was actually just hurt
- Every feeling I have collapses into the same three words
- A feeling slams into me and I have no idea where it came from or why it’s this big
Practices that may help
- Notice and name mixed or contradictory emotions simultaneously
When something significant happens, look for two or more emotions that coexist — even contradictory ones.
The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary - Name what the emotion is doing in your body
Track the physical signs of the emotion as they move through — this alone reduces their intensity.
The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical - Tell apart emotions that feel similar
Separate the cousins: anxiety vs excitement, anger vs hurt, sadness vs disappointment.
Emotional Granularity: Precision as a Regulation Skill - Expand your feelings vocabulary
Deliberately learn and use a wider range of emotion words than "good" and "bad".
Emotional Granularity: Precision as a Regulation Skill - Understand the function of the emotion
Every emotion evolved because it does something useful — learn what yours is trying to do.
DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical - Granular labeling: move from broad to specific emotion words
Replace "stressed" or "bad" with the most specific emotion word you can find.
Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice - Name the emotion accurately
Use precise emotion words — not just "fine" or "stressed" — to be honest with yourself about what you actually feel.
Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical - Give yourself permission to feel
Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical - Locate the emotion in the body as well as naming it
After naming an emotion on the Feeling Wheel, find where it lives in the body.
The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary - Get curious about the feeling, not critical
Ask "what is this emotion and what is it about?" instead of "why do I feel this way again?"
Emotional Granularity: Precision as a Regulation Skill
Related concerns
- Emotion As Information
Every emotion evolved because it does something useful — learn what yours is trying to do.
Understand the function of the emotion
- Emotions As Information
Every emotion evolved because it does something useful — learn what yours is trying to do.
- Why Do I Feel All Emotions So Intensely
Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
Give yourself permission to feel
- Why Do I Feel Emotions So Intensely
Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
- Awe Emotion Psychology
Every emotion evolved because it does something useful — learn what yours is trying to do.
- Name Your Emotions
Deliberately learn and use a wider range of emotion words than "good" and "bad".
Expand your feelings vocabulary
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