Coaching practices for Situation Selection in a New Job
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I know exactly what fills me back up
- If I’m honest, I would never sign up for this job (or this routine, this arrangement) if it were put in front of me fresh today
- Some people leave me lit up and others leave me flat and small, but I keep giving the most of my time to the draining ones out of habit or obligation
- There are a few things that matter enormously to me
- There’s a hard conversation or event I can’t get out of, and I just brace to white-knuckle through it
Practices that may help
- Situation Selection, Made Practical
Situation selection is James Gross’s most upstream emotion regulation strategy: deliberately choosing which situations to enter or avoid based on the emotional consequences they are likely to produce. Because it prevents unwanted emotions from arising rather than managing them after the fact, it is the most efficient regulatory strategy — and the most underused. - Design your situation for positive emotion, not just negative avoidance
Situation selection is not only about avoiding what is harmful — it includes actively scheduling what is emotionally nourishing.
Situation Selection, Made Practical - Ask: “Would I choose this today if I were starting fresh?”
Evaluate your current situation as if you were encountering it for the first time, without sunk costs.
Status Quo Bias — Why We Stick with the Default - Curate your social situation portfolio
Who you spend time with, and in what contexts, is perhaps the highest-leverage situation selection available to most people.
Situation Selection, Made Practical - Develop regulation strategies for high-value, difficult situations
For the situations you must enter despite their emotional cost, invest in regulation capacity rather than avoidance.
Situation Selection, Made Practical - Modify situations before entering them
When you must enter a difficult situation, shape it in advance to reduce its emotional cost.
Situation Selection, Made Practical - Directing — high direction for the eager novice
With someone new and keen but unskilled, give clear, specific instruction and tight structure.
Situational Leadership, Made Practical - Identify and anticipate upcoming transition windows
Treat approaching life changes as scheduled opportunities for habit installation — plan before the transition, not after.
The Habit Discontinuity Effect - Install target behaviors in the new context from day one
Begin the desired habit in the new environment before the new context develops its own competing cues.
The Habit Discontinuity Effect - Use a life transition to break old environment-behavior links
Major context changes (a move, a new job) create a rare window where old habits are disrupted and new ones are easier to form.
Environment Design for Behavior Change
Related concerns
- Situation Selection During A Big Change
When you must enter a difficult situation, shape it in advance to reduce its emotional cost.
Modify situations before entering them
- Situation Selection When Starting Out
Situation selection is James Gross’s most upstream emotion regulation strategy: deliberately choosing which situations to enter or avoid based on the emotional consequences they are likely to produce. Because it prevents unwanted emotions from arising rather than managing them after the fact, it is the most efficient regulatory strategy — and the most underused.
- Broaden And Build Situation Selection
Situation selection is not only about avoiding what is harmful — it includes actively scheduling what is emotionally nourishing.
Design your situation for positive emotion, not just negative avoidance
- Situation Selection After A Loss
Situation selection is James Gross’s most upstream emotion regulation strategy: deliberately choosing which situations to enter or avoid based on the emotional consequences they are likely to produce. Because it prevents unwanted emotions from arising rather than managing them after the fact, it is the most efficient regulatory strategy — and the most underused.
- Situation Selection As A Caregiver
Situation selection is James Gross’s most upstream emotion regulation strategy: deliberately choosing which situations to enter or avoid based on the emotional consequences they are likely to produce. Because it prevents unwanted emotions from arising rather than managing them after the fact, it is the most efficient regulatory strategy — and the most underused.
- Situation Selection As A Parent
Situation selection is James Gross’s most upstream emotion regulation strategy: deliberately choosing which situations to enter or avoid based on the emotional consequences they are likely to produce. Because it prevents unwanted emotions from arising rather than managing them after the fact, it is the most efficient regulatory strategy — and the most underused.
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