Coaching practices for Situational Leadership After a Setback

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• The moment something goes wrong I just freeze and think there’s nothing I can do, and the helplessness wins before I’ve even considered a response
• I raised the hard truth nobody wanted to hear and now the whole pushback has turned on me
• We had a reorg — lost a key person, changed direction — and suddenly the team that used to hum is fighting and second-guessing again, and I’m treating it like they broke instead of seeing the ground shifted under them.
• When something goes wrong my first move is to find who dropped the ball, and when it goes well I quietly feel it was mostly me
• Every time something goes sideways we replay it looking for who dropped the ball, and the wins we never examine at all

Practices that may help

1. Coaching — high direction and high support for the disillusioned learner
   When early enthusiasm dips but skill is still forming, combine clear guidance with active encouragement.
   Situational Leadership, Made Practical
2. Supporting — step back on direction, stay high on support
   For the capable-but-cautious performer, lighten the instructions and bolster their confidence.
   Situational Leadership, Made Practical
3. Pre-commit to agentic responses with if-then plans
   Decide in advance "if [setback], then [my action]" so adversity cues action instead of resignation.
   Locus of Control: Building a Sense of Agency
4. Situational Leadership, Made Practical
   Situational Leadership, developed by Paul Hersey and Ken Blanchard, says the right leadership style depends on the follower’s readiness for a given task: match how much you direct versus support to where the person actually is. It is enormously popular in corporate training, but its empirical support is genuinely weak — treat it as a useful thinking tool, not a validated law.
5. Hold steady when the system pushes back
   Expect displacement, scapegoating, and pressure to return to the old equilibrium — and stay the course.
   Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
6. Recognize and recover from stage regression
   A team that was Performing can drop back to Storming — and the recovery move is different from the original ascent.
   Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development
7. Look out the window for credit, in the mirror for blame
   When things go well, credit others; when things go wrong, look at yourself first.
   Level 5 Leadership: Humility and Will in Great Leaders
8. Run brief after-action reviews without blame
   After any significant outcome — success or failure — ask four questions together as a team.
   Psychological Safety in Teams
9. Regulate the level of distress in the system
   Keep productive pressure high enough to motivate change but low enough to prevent shutdown.
   Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
10. Invoke the possible self during setbacks
    When you fail or stall, return to the hoped-for self — not to the outcome goal — as your re-orienting anchor.
    Possible Selves, Made Practical

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