Coaching practices for Situational Leadership as a Parent
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- Even when I sit down to play with my kid I catch myself steering it
- There are a few situations that go badly every single time
- I careen between cracking down like a drill sergeant and then feeling guilty and just letting everything slide, and my kid never knows which version of me they’re getting
- Every little thing turns into a power struggle because my kid wants to control everything, and I’m stuck between bossing them through the whole day or handing them a freedom they’re not ready for
- Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
Practices that may help
- Situational Leadership, Made Practical
Situational Leadership, developed by Paul Hersey and Ken Blanchard, says the right leadership style depends on the follower’s readiness for a given task: match how much you direct versus support to where the person actually is. It is enormously popular in corporate training, but its empirical support is genuinely weak — treat it as a useful thinking tool, not a validated law. - Supporting — step back on direction, stay high on support
For the capable-but-cautious performer, lighten the instructions and bolster their confidence.
Situational Leadership, Made Practical - Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Coaching — high direction and high support for the disillusioned learner
When early enthusiasm dips but skill is still forming, combine clear guidance with active encouragement.
Situational Leadership, Made Practical - Plan behavior management strategies in advance
Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Provide warmth and structure simultaneously
Children need to know they are loved and to know what is expected — these work together, not against each other.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind) - Give age-appropriate autonomy within non-negotiable limits
Let the child choose within the boundaries you set — the choice builds competence; the boundary provides safety.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind) - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Allow natural consequences to do the teaching
Step back and let the world respond — your child learns more from being cold than from being lectured about coats.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Say yes to bids for connection before enforcing limits
A child’s capacity to accept limits depends on how connected they feel to the person setting them.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind)
Related concerns
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When children help solve the problem, they own the solution — and solutions they own, they actually follow.
Use family meetings to solve problems together
- Balancing Childrens Needs With A Parents Own Needs
Children need to know they are loved and to know what is expected — these work together, not against each other.
Provide warmth and structure simultaneously
- Child Loosening Straps On Car Seat
Predictable schedules, sensory comfort, and low transition stress make Green more accessible.
Arrange the environment to support Green Zone states
- Choice Architecture As A Parent
Choice architecture — the arrangement of options in a decision environment — powerfully biases outcomes through default effects, ordering, salience, and framing. Thaler and Sunstein showed this is true whether or not anyone designed it deliberately, which means you can redesign your environment to bias yourself toward better choices.
- Cialdini S Principles Of Influence As A Parent
Robert Cialdini identified six near-universal levers of persuasion — reciprocity, commitment and consistency, social proof, authority, liking, and scarcity — that bias people toward saying yes. They’re drawn from decades of social-psychology research and field studies; the principles are well established even though individual effect sizes vary by context.
- Evidence Based Parenting
Triple P — Positive Parenting Program — is a multilevel evidence-based parenting support system developed by Matthew Sanders at the University of Queensland. It teaches positive relationship skills, proactive management strategies, and calm responses to misbehavior. Multiple meta-analyses and RCTs support its effectiveness for reducing child behavior problems and parent stress, making it one of the most rigorously evaluated parenting programs in the world.
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