Coaching practices for So My Boss is Teaching a Class About Transgenders

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  • I send my boss the careful, detailed write-ups I’d want to receive and they barely skim them, and I keep blaming the content
  • My boss is clearly frustrated and I can feel it, but naming their feeling out loud to someone above me feels presumptuous, even risky
  • I keep taking my boss’s frustrating decisions personally, like they’re just choosing to make my life harder
  • I keep dropping problems on my boss’s desk and waiting for them to tell me what to do, and I can feel it reads as me not owning my work
  • Someone on my team is clearly going through something heavy and I’ve just been carrying on talking deliverables like nothing’s wrong

Practices that may help

  1. Adapt to your manager’s communication style
    Match your manager’s preferred level of detail, pace, and channel — not theirs to yours.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
  2. Use labeling across power asymmetries — with care
    Labeling your senior’s frustration is more delicate than labeling a peer’s — name the stakes, not just the feeling.
    Labeling Emotions in Negotiation, Made Practical
  3. Understand the constraints your manager operates under
    Ask about the pressures and constraints your manager faces — then factor them into your expectations and requests.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
  4. Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
    Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
  5. Show up for the person, not just the deliverable
    Acknowledge what is happening in someone’s life when it is clearly affecting them — before addressing the work.
    Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor
  6. Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up
    Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
    Psychological Safety in Teams
  7. Send proactive, brief status updates
    Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
  8. Use social transitions to change the norms around your behavior
    When your social group changes, use the transition to adopt the behavioral norms of the new group rather than carrying old ones.
    The Habit Discontinuity Effect
  9. Disagree with your manager constructively
    State your disagreement clearly, give your reasoning, and then commit to the decision — without sacrificing either honesty or loyalty.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
  10. Explain the material to someone else — real or imagined
    Teaching forces you to process at the deepest level: organizing information coherently, identifying gaps, and translating to another person’s perspective.
    Levels of Processing: Why Depth of Encoding Determines What You Remember

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