Coaching practices for Somatic Experiencing Honestly Explained After a Loss
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- Everyone keeps telling me to move on and get over the loss, but the grief is huge and it won’t go
- The day they died still plays in my head in jagged pieces
- I’m stuck endlessly in my head
- It’s been long enough that I can quietly admit something in me has shifted since they died
- My memories of them and of how it happened come at me in scattered, jagged pieces with no order to them, and I keep replaying the end on a loop
Practices that may help
- Somatic Experiencing, Honestly Explained
Somatic Experiencing, developed by Peter Levine, proposes that overwhelming experience leaves incomplete survival energy "stuck" in the body, and that gently completing and discharging that activation — in small, titrated doses, moving between activation and calm (pendulation) — helps the nervous system settle. The body-awareness skills it teaches are low-risk and increasingly studied, but the evidence base is still emerging and the "stored energy" model is a clinical theory, not established physiology. These are self-regulation skills; trauma work belongs with a trained professional. - Treating grief as a form of gratitude
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Retell the story of the death and its aftermath
Construct a coherent, detailed narrative of the loss — including your experience before, during, and after.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Track body sensation (the felt sense)
Follow raw physical sensation with curiosity — tingling, warmth, pressure — rather than the storyline.
Somatic Experiencing, Honestly Explained - Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Construct a coherent narrative of the loss
Tell the full story of the loss — who the person was, what happened, and what life is now.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Havening to soften acute grief activation
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch - Acknowledge: name what is hard
Place a hand on your heart and say, "This is a moment of suffering."
The Self-Compassion Break - Receive meaning through beauty, love, and nature
Meaning flows not only from what you do but from what you allow yourself to fully receive.
Meaning-Centered Therapy, Made Practical - Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Nature And Movement After A Loss
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Treating grief as a form of gratitude
- Slow Living After A Loss
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
- Best Way To Deal With Grief And Loss
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
- Crystallising Memories Grief
Identify particular memories that distil what mattered most about the relationship.
Use specific memories as resources for meaning
- Deep Work After A Loss
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
- Essentialism After A Loss
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
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